• J
  • Birmingham, United Kingdom
  • 13 days ago

Am I terrible for not planning to breastfeed?

Since I found out I was pregnant, I generally new straight away I wouldn’t be breastfeeding. I think it’s a beautiful thing for the moms that do, but for me personally I just wasn’t comfortable with the thought. This has been met with plenty of criticism, especially from my partners side of the family..... causing me and this man to argue. He’s even gone so far as to buy EVERYTHING for the baby EXCEPT the milk, to try and manipulate me into breastfeeding. I am LIVID. Anybody else had this experience or felt guilty for not breastfeeding?
  • N
  • 2 days ago

I feel you should atleast give it a try and if you absolutely hate it or it’s not good for your mental health quit. Nothing is wrong with formula. My daughter breastfed for 11 months then my milk went away so she had formula for the last month. Ultimately it’s your choice. Don’t let anyone guilt you or make you feel some type of way.

  • A
  • Arlington, United States
  • 5 days ago

Absolutely not! Yes parenting is doing what’s best for the baby BUUUUT that also includes doing what’s best for you. 😇 healthy mommas typically help to make healthy kiddos 😍

  • J
  • Columbus, United States
  • 5 days ago

I wasn’t able to produce for my two oldest boys for some reason and, therefore, didn’t attempt breastfeeding with my third. My babies were all well fed, happy and healthy and my postpartum depression was not nearly as horrible the third time around as it was after trying and failing to breastfeed my first two! Everyone is different but “fed is best” in my own personal opinion. I wish you luck in finding yours! 🙏🏽

  • A
  • Abilene, United States
  • 6 days ago

I tried breastfeeding for two weeks. I really wanted to breastfeed my little one, but I never produced enough milk. I cried constantly those first two weeks, and so did he. The constant breastfeeding and pumping was awful! There is so much pressure to breastfeed. People kept telling me to “stick it out” and “your milk will com in eventually”. I wanted to tell those people they didn’t know my body, and didn’t know what I was going through emotionally. My babies pedi was great. He said whatever makes me happy and emotionally stable is what I should do for my baby. So we are straight formula now. I still feel sad about not being able to breastfeed, but my baby is fed and gaining weight. I wish people would back off the breast is best crap. Fed and a happy momma are best!!

  • J
  • Columbus, United States
  • 5 days ago

Thank you for sharing your story! It’s nice to hear that I’m not alone in being unable to produce. It sounds like you did a great job trying and you made the right choice for you and your baby! Way to go, mama!

  • K
  • Downers Grove, United States
  • 6 days ago

You are absolutely fine. There’s way to much societal pressure and as a woman who has been breastfeeding with very little issues it’s still SO HARD and has been emotionally exhausting. While I know it’s great for the baby, sometimes I feel like it can be a female ego thing: “I made it *this long* breastfeeding.” Do what makes you the most comfortable and stay the course. You’re doing great. This whole experience is already so hard as it is.

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