• L
  • 2 months ago

Military moms

I’m in the Navy and I recently went Reserves status. However, I hate it and I want to go back on the active side. Any other mamas get a lot of backlash? Like your one job in life is to be a mom and how dare you want to pursue your career? I have a 3 year old & I’m an amazing mom. She is my entire world. But I want to be more than just a mom. I want her to view the world and realize that she can do anything that she wants too. I want to be that example for her.
  • P
  • Everett, United States
  • 23 days ago

I got backlash for getting out of the army. But I've been doing the stay at home mom thing and it's not for me I want to be more than just a mom aswell but I would never want to go back to working the long hrs that I did in the military and being away from him for such a distance and extended amount of time. I'm going back to college on my gi bill. You cant just be a mom your a person. And if you lower your standards of you for the sake of what others think your telling your daughter by example that she should give into social expectations of her as she grows up. No one is a perfect mom there is no such thing. But if your a happy mom that's what your kids need. If your happy you are the best you and you can then be the best mom for them. You need to take care of your self before you can take care of others just realize that you dont have to do just the military to do something else with your life. If u dont mind deploying away from your kid months & the military is worth the heartache of seeing them missing u

  • P
  • Everett, United States
  • 23 days ago

Just know you can do something else with your life than just being a stay at home mom or the military there's other things out there that could make you happy and make you feel like your doing more but they wont take you away from your kids for 9 months at a time or so.

  • B
  • Hoover, United States
  • 23 days ago

I’m also AGR and my family is pressed for me to get off the program and move back home so my son can be closer...NOT HAPPENING 🗣😂I have to do what’s best for me and my son and that’s staying on the program.

  • N
  • Honolulu, United States
  • 2 months ago

While I’m not active military. I have always been a working mom. I think being a working mom in a military community is hard, because most of the mil spouse are stay at home moms. Nothing wrong with that either. But it’s important for me to keep my career. I’m lucky enough that i work remotely for my global tech company. It has its downside though, because it makes it a lot harder to make friends. Most activity geared toward spouses are for during the day, when i have to work. And i have young kids still, so it makes it even harder. I would say, if you need more, go back active duty. My sister was dual military and she made it work. I think key is to have a supportive family. Husband and extended family on board. Not everyone has that ability to have family members fly in, if someone has to go on a deployment or business trips... but finding Your tribe, you can make it work. I honestly wouldn’t listen to these nay sayers. Often times, i fee they will have something negative to say because they unhappy.

  • y
  • 2 months ago

Happy Mom= Happy Kids. I don’t have any experience of having children while in the military or my mom being in the military BUT my mom worked full-time, went to school and did so much for her family as a working mother. I’m a sahm and I do a lot for my family as well. I think your daughter will look up to you as I looked up to my mom. When you have a strong mother, it helps you know that you can accomplish anything. There is no right or wrong way to raise your children, just different. And I think as long as your daughter sees how hard you work and the great things you accomplish, she will understand and love you. Don’t be so hard on yourself, you’re an amazing mom even if you don’t stay at home

  • J
  • El Paso, USA
  • 2 months ago

I completly understand how you feel. I was active army for many many years. And my best friends husband said i was a horrible mom for leaving my son with my mom & family during deployments. I was floored. And it stung. It still hurts today and probably always will but it did not hurt him in any way. He grew up stronger and more respectful then other kids around him. He is now 19 and preparing to go to basic himself. The worst pain i have ever had was being away but it strengthened our family because i was doing what i loved. If i stayed home with a job i was not happy in.. he would have saw and learned to settle for less then he wants or deserves. Do what makes you feel whole, so he can learn the same from you. 🤗

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