• L
  • 5 months ago

Military moms

I’m in the Navy and I recently went Reserves status. However, I hate it and I want to go back on the active side. Any other mamas get a lot of backlash? Like your one job in life is to be a mom and how dare you want to pursue your career? I have a 3 year old & I’m an amazing mom. She is my entire world. But I want to be more than just a mom. I want her to view the world and realize that she can do anything that she wants too. I want to be that example for her.
  • E
  • 20 days ago

Going FTS is an option? I know much talk today is around the "you do you, you be happy, you...you...you" but my idea of parenting differs a bit from most. I'm Navy reserves also. I'd look into FTS. Maybe that could fit your situation better. Best of luck.

  • A
  • Thiensville, United States
  • a month ago

Don’t feel guilty if you want to go back, you definitely should! I think your relationship with your daughter will be better if you choose to follow where your heart is telling you to go. We deserve to feel fulfilled in all aspects of life❤️ I’m struggling with the decision to stay in also though.. so maybe I should take my own advice? I’m an army reservist but the army is still a part of me that I don’t want to give up. It’s just the thought of a possible deployment and leaving my newborn idk if I could go through that.

  • A
  • CO, US
  • a month ago

I served 8.5 years active duty in the Marine Corps. I’m out now (Thank God Lol) and I’m so thankful that I get to stay home full time and be with my daughter and son on the way. It’s exhausting at times, but in a different and better way. I don’t regret my service, but I’m in a much better place now mentally and physically. I absolutely respect & admire the moms (and dads) that choose to stay in! It’s a LOT of sacrifice. I deployed twice, 7 months each time and I can’t imagine being away from my kids for that long. I would absolutely die 💔🥺

  • D
  • Redland, United States
  • 2 months ago

I was active 6 yrs as an officer, then Reserves as an IMA now for 8 yrs. I got out to start a family and was a SAHM for a bit but was going nuts. I went back to work as a contractor in the same place I would do my IMA duty. That was good but the traffic to get to work was awful and was wearing me down. I ended up leaving the contractor job to start working from home, which has been great. I pick the weekdays I want for IMA duty, no weekends. My 4yo and 2yo kids go to daycare (not the 4 month baby, who stays with me for now until he turns 1) during the day while I work out of the house. I love still being connected to the military part time and take advantage of the awesome Tricare Reserve insurance. I like that instead of focusing on the US Military mission mainly, my main focus is now my family and setting up some great investments and business networks so I can retire nicer than if I would have done a 20 year active duty retirement. Good luck!

  • P
  • Everett, United States
  • 4 months ago

I got backlash for getting out of the army. But I've been doing the stay at home mom thing and it's not for me I want to be more than just a mom aswell but I would never want to go back to working the long hrs that I did in the military and being away from him for such a distance and extended amount of time. I'm going back to college on my gi bill. You cant just be a mom your a person. And if you lower your standards of you for the sake of what others think your telling your daughter by example that she should give into social expectations of her as she grows up. No one is a perfect mom there is no such thing. But if your a happy mom that's what your kids need. If your happy you are the best you and you can then be the best mom for them. You need to take care of your self before you can take care of others just realize that you dont have to do just the military to do something else with your life. If u dont mind deploying away from your kid months & the military is worth the heartache of seeing them missing u

  • P
  • Everett, United States
  • 4 months ago

Just know you can do something else with your life than just being a stay at home mom or the military there's other things out there that could make you happy and make you feel like your doing more but they wont take you away from your kids for 9 months at a time or so.

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