My experience with Getting out

Meeting other moms is hard (and I'm 34, so it's not an age issue!). I've definitely felt awkward like that too. We just have to keep trying to put ourselves out there.

Yes! It’s so hard. It gets a little bit easier when the kids get older because they will often be the icebreaker (they will start playing with another kid at the playground and you start chatting with their mom, etc). Hang in there! In the meantime, keep going to these kinds of things and remember, moms love talking about their kids!! Start with “your daughter is so cute! How old is she?” and you can’t go wrong 🙂

I have friends from before but mostly i just hang out with family. I feels awkard around other moms too. I feel inadequate around other moms and I don’t know why. And I’m not 22, i am 31 so i dont of age plays into it.

I find it difficult to start conversations with other moms too! Especially because I come across older moms more often. All I can say is that we can try and step out of our comfort zone. I was anxious about a natural birth but I did it lol. Just remember that we are capable of much more. 💕

First off, good for you for taking our daughter out, getting both of you ready (feeling good is most important), and at least you’re making an attempt to interact with other moms!! I’m also a 24yo mother to a 22 mo daughter and an almost 8mo son. We are in a very similar situation, my boyfriend and I have yet to “take the next step” (🙄) cause we put our parental/adult priorities first; such as our children, life, house, cars, duties, etc. I am also new to this app and area. All my fiends/family are almost 2 hours away. Anyways; I’m sorry to say I don’t have a “fix” to your issue, other than you are NOT alone. Let’s connect!! I wish I would’ve found this app and other mom friends over a year ago!

It sucks were so far apart, I feel the exact same way. Even women who arent moms see me with my son and make awkward comments; such as "oh a baby having babies".

You’re not alone! I am a young mom and I was concerned with not fitting in. I created my own lane. I built a mom blog and met moms here on Peanut with the same interest! Moms started to reach out to me and I totally grew comfortable after that.

I've always sucked at making new friends both pre- and post-kids. :(

I feel like making mom friends (or friends as an adult for that matter!) is super hard. There is way too much judgement with a lot of folks. I’m not a young mom, I’m 36 with a 2 year old, but I’m also not married. I feel like there is stigma around that and yuck! Who wants that?! I took my kiddo to reading events at the library when he was little in hopes of making friends, but no dice. My best friend happens to have a son my son’s age but we both have pretty crazy schedules so we only get to hang out a couple times a month if we’re lucky. I tried connecting with parents of the kiddos in my son’s preschool but they are all already friends and I was unsuccessful there too.

I feel the same way! I was never one to have many friends in school. My partner has actually been the first real friend I've had (I can be my complete self with him without holding back). Making mom friends is hard. We met a couple with a similarly aged baby at the zoo once. We exchanged numbers and had a playdate a few weeks later. Everything was great until the mom asked me my age and I told her I'm almost 20 years old (my son was 10 months old at the time) . She almost dropped her plate of food haha. I try to keep age out of the conversation now. If I don't, the conversation turns into "why would you have a baby so young?", "how does it feel not having lived life first?", etc.

We live far away (I'm in Canada) but I'd love to connect!

I've never gone out to a public event meant for children or infants so I dont know what thats really like but I am also a young mom, I'm 20 and I lost some friends because I couldnt hang out with them like I used to. I love getting all dressed up with my baby, can't handle the heels much but I do feel like ive been judged before for spending so much time on myself. Kind of like I shouldn't be allowed to just cause I'm a mom.

My daughter will be two and since I have had her, I have definitely struggled to make friends. My job had made me such a social butterfly, I had no problems with making friends but now I feel so out of the loop. Also being a stay at home mom doesn’t help either.

I have friends “before baby,” who aren’t my friends so much in my “after baby” life. We have an obligatory “let’s meet for coffee,” but that’s it.

I’m a young mom in my community as well (pregnant at 19, married w/baby at 20, now 21 with an 8 almost 9 month old) but I’ve sort of alienated myself from my age group a while ago because I opened a business and own a home with my husband, and honestly— that’s the reason. They’ve told me to my face. So my age group isn’t my ideal, but older mom’s also look down at me. So I’m in your boat.

So sad to hear all the judgments people are living through and this post shines a light on that. Some because of age, some because they are moms and single friends don’t get it. Some just because they have a new business. Those are just a few and it is a harsh reality on how we judge each other!!! But it also shows we are all struggling. We are all trying our best and we could all benefit from more kindness and less judgment!

I was always the only one saying Hi and nobody was saying hi back, they were already paired or in groups, knowing each other from before so talking to those moms was difficult. This is despite the fact that I was supposed to fit in in terms of other parameters.

I feel exactly the same as you. It seems impossible to make new mom friends. The best advice I got was to always be yourself regardless.

I am a military spouse so I go through the process of "making friends" every few years! It can be challenging and especially when you aren't the outgoing social type (like me!). First, I think you were doing the right thing doing stuff on Peanut and joining baby/mom groups! It's not the most comfortable thing but I think a lot of people actually have the same thoughts and feelings you do who are at those groups.

No advice but I just wanted to say that I’m in the same boat. Went to story time today at the local library. It seemed like a lot of the moms that go already know each other or are related. Also doesn’t help that I’m a shy person and my almost 3 year old daughter can be a little crazy/hyper at times. I just go for her to be able to socialize with kids her age but most of the time I’m chasing her around trying to keep her from destroying things and to stop distracting all the other kiddos and to just STAY STILL or sit down and listen to the story! Lol I do feel judged sometimes because of how my child acts but I’m okay with just sitting there like a loner so she can get out of the house and have some play time. Momming is rough! and making friends when you’re older is hard.

I can totally relate to that feeling. I was going on 22 when my daughter was 6 months old and it was so hard to make Mom friends. I was lucky enough to have a neighbor who had a baby 2 months before me and we hit it off. Ever since she moved back to California it’s been a real struggle making new friends so I guess I don’t really have any advice lol but I feel for you 💕

I feel the same. I just moved here and I'm always alone. I'm so ready to separate from my husband he is emotionally abusive and has been physical. I just had a new baby he is 3 months old and I have a 9 year old boy as well. Just ready to be on my own.

Happens to me all the time! I just feel awkward around people until I get to know them ... plus being so far from home I barely ever talk to my friends ... Sometimes there isn't much to talk about and I keep beating myself up because I can't think of stuff to talk about with people I don't know... Hopefully will get better in time.

Id say hi, sounds adorable! Dont get too discouraged. Out of 1000 mamas ive met irl (not from Peanut), ive talked to a handful and ended up befriending even less. Youll find your friends, its just not easy. Focus on your daughter when you get stressed in a situation like that. I remember a music class with really judgey moms once and just ignored them and made it the most fun thing for him and me.

I’m a young mum too, I’m 22 this year same as you & I totally get what you are going through, my son is 2 months old so it’s still very early yet but meeting new mums is never easy ! Best of luck x

Me im 23 and have 0 friends

I was 22 when I had my first child and I hated playgroups we literally stayed in because as much as I wanted to make friends I hated the judgement. In January just gone I forced myself out with my little boy to a playgroup you know new year new me all that crap! We now go weekly and we’ve made friends! I found I had to put myself out there. I’m now volunteering to help run the group whilst both children are at nursery and I can promise you every one feels the same way as you and is in the same boat! If you ever fancy a chat just message and so what if you like to dress nice! I’d be thinking she’s got her shit together fair play! X

I still have a hard time & have no idea. My daughter is almost 2 1/2 😞

um, yeah. it’s literally like the mom curse. and the longer you go without making friends the more socially awkward you become making it that’s even harder to find friends LOL. this is especially true when you have kids young because unless you are in a military community the people around you with kids are usually quite a bit older than you

My son will be 4 soon and I literally have 0 friends. I lost everyone when I fell pregnant and moved away. It's isolating and draining. I also now struggle socially because I've not had friends for so long I just feel awkward

I feel the same way I’m 20 my daughter is 6 months and all of my friends are in college and we don’t talk much any more until I go home for the holidays I spend time with my family and my boyfriends family a lot and want to join a mom group but feel I won’t be able to connect with them because of our age gap! Glad I’m not the only way that feels this way and hopefully things will change

I have like 1 rl friend who's my bestfriend and 10 online bestfriends, i also have a hard time making friends. I became a mom at 21, but it's crazy how many friends you lose (who aren't mothers) after having kid's. I've met one friend from here and we still talk and trying to make plans to hang out soon she had moved to SC and had just moved back to the area so i was excited she came back lol. But if you have friends in here who are local make plans to meet and hang out!

I have zero friends and SAHM. I just went to a big fitness summit. Talk about socialization overload. I forgot how conversations are supposed to FLOW and how to get out my shell. I told my husband and he said he’ll start helping me get out but social skills is REAL!

I struggle soooo much. I don’t understand how some can just have so many mom friends.. it’s lonely for sure and I feel your pain!

i’ve never been good at making friends so now that i’m a mom it’s just worse. i don’t even know what to say to people anymore.

I relate to you so much!! I love dressing my daughter up even though I’m usually in a T-shirt. And I’m 21 and a single mom. I get judge mental stares and nobody talks to me 😬 I try to be nice to other moms but we’re always in opposite points in our lives with them married, older than me, and so many other differences. It’s SO hard!!

As an 'older' mum please know nobody is judging you😊we're all struggling at times and it's hard to just socialise cos baby comes 1st..being a mum is hard work regardless how old you are. Being a mum makes you a frigging rockstar no matter who you are! You don't need to be married motherhood is a blessing however it comes about. I dress me and baby girl up all the damn time haha if anyone has an issue with it they can suck an egg!
It's hard to be a mum and connect with other mums people are just as shy and just as nervous as you half the time which is why they don't introduce themselves don't take it personally. I'm outspoken too which is fine if people are over sensitive that's a them problem not yours! Be you be the great mum you already are. xx

I have a two year and I’m 34 year old and I have a hard time making friends. I take me daughter to the park and I play with her and other mom talk I feel alone

I had this when my oldest was 15months old and I'd just had my middle child. The baby groups were full of little cliques and i felt as welcome as a fart in a lift. Plus I had the opposite everyone was younger and i was the oldest there. Literally no-one said hi so i plucked up the courage to leave and as i did i told them all that i felt the least welcome I'd ever felt anywhere and that if i had a choice between coming back and having a smear I'd be legs akimbo quicker than you can say 'awkward silence'.

Def dont feel paranoid bout ur age trust me it works the otherway 2 im a older mum and i feel all are younger mums. Totally get the socialising struggle. Its hard enough anyway but when ur sleep deprived and out of sync with whats happening in world outside ur four walls can be so daunting. Just take reassurance in the fact that all mums have felt like this or do ferl like this at some point. Being a mum is a tough task. I just try and go with it. At groups if i get tslking to other mums great but if i dont which i dont always i just see it as at least we got out of house n little one got chance 2 play xx