There one thing I learned about being a mother and a wife......its ok to just think about you never loose who you are. It's ok to take care of your own self. This is why I work for my own identity outside of mom and wife even when I was a stay at home mom I made it my business to say no kids no hubby Frederica time.......its ok to say me first today
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Katy, United States
a month ago
Just realizing this and it feels so good to just be ME outside of my roles of taking care of everyone else💞
I feel like i did when i had my first son but with twins, i feel like im losing myself... i dont know how to make that me time anymore, actually i cant anymore .... 😕
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Forest Hill, United States
a month ago
It’s like.. I needed to see this, but I don’t know how to find/keep myself as a SAHM; where you have your thing, I don’t have anything like that. :(
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Forest Hill, United States
a month ago
Before my son was born, I did a lot of different things. Taking photographs, doing photo editing, Hell.. even coloring. But my son is very needy, and I don’t know how much of that has to do with it always just being he and I, and how much is to do with his lip tie because he always wants to be nursed. So I can’t really do any of those things because I’m so hands on with my son basically 24/7. I can’t even get off the bed while he’s napping usually without him waking up. Only time he will sleep on his own is when he’s gotten a bottle and is full vs still being hungry while nursing and falling asleep.
I'm not going to lie, I'm not first and that's okay with me. We should all strive to take care of our needs like sleeping and eating and resting, but as a mom and wife the job takes you putting other people's needs above your own and oftentimes you can't just say no. I don't think that should be your main priority anyways. You will always be who you are and choice of past times or saying no to yourself to make you a better wife and mother shouldn't make you feel like you are not yourself. I don't really need anything to happen for me to feel like me.
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DeSoto, United States
a month ago
And that's ok to feel that way but for me being a mom and a wife is part of who I am before that I'm Frederica working adventurous outgoing free spirit all my life I grew up with people saying when you get married and have kids your life is over but that not true at all I just pick up two more responsibilities but children grow up and my husband has his own thing at the end of day my life is still going so I'm going to keep doing what I did before they where here cause that's who I am
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Pittsburg, United States
a month ago
That is so true. I don't know why people say that. It's a season of life and it's not all over, I include my family in my journey and their needs but I don't feel like my life is over by any means.
Just realizing this and it feels so good to just be ME outside of my roles of taking care of everyone else💞
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2 replies are hidden... Continue reading on Peanut!I feel like i did when i had my first son but with twins, i feel like im losing myself... i dont know how to make that me time anymore, actually i cant anymore .... 😕
It’s like.. I needed to see this, but I don’t know how to find/keep myself as a SAHM; where you have your thing, I don’t have anything like that. :(
Before my son was born, I did a lot of different things. Taking photographs, doing photo editing, Hell.. even coloring. But my son is very needy, and I don’t know how much of that has to do with it always just being he and I, and how much is to do with his lip tie because he always wants to be nursed. So I can’t really do any of those things because I’m so hands on with my son basically 24/7. I can’t even get off the bed while he’s napping usually without him waking up. Only time he will sleep on his own is when he’s gotten a bottle and is full vs still being hungry while nursing and falling asleep.
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Absolutely!!! Not just ok, but necessary!
I'm not going to lie, I'm not first and that's okay with me. We should all strive to take care of our needs like sleeping and eating and resting, but as a mom and wife the job takes you putting other people's needs above your own and oftentimes you can't just say no. I don't think that should be your main priority anyways. You will always be who you are and choice of past times or saying no to yourself to make you a better wife and mother shouldn't make you feel like you are not yourself. I don't really need anything to happen for me to feel like me.
And that's ok to feel that way but for me being a mom and a wife is part of who I am before that I'm Frederica working adventurous outgoing free spirit all my life I grew up with people saying when you get married and have kids your life is over but that not true at all I just pick up two more responsibilities but children grow up and my husband has his own thing at the end of day my life is still going so I'm going to keep doing what I did before they where here cause that's who I am
That is so true. I don't know why people say that. It's a season of life and it's not all over, I include my family in my journey and their needs but I don't feel like my life is over by any means.