Loss at 20 weeks

I'm so sorry your going through this 😔. I'm sending you so much love.🤍

Sending my love 🙏🏾🌈

I’m so sorry. Would you like to share your son’s name with us? My twins Auden and Este died at 20 weeks last June. Its so heartbreaking, truly the hardest thing a parent should never have to do is say goodbye as they also say hello. If you ever need someone to talk to who gets it, or want to talk about TTC after loss, my DMs are open to you 💜

His name is Tobias (God is good) Gabriel (God is my strength).

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What a strong name for such a beloved boy 💜 thank you for sharing with us 💜

Oh Michala I’m so so sorry. ♥️ We went in for our 19-week anatomy scan this January and found out we’d lost our baby at 16 weeks. It was (and still is) devastating. We were so excited to find out baby’s sex. He was our 5th baby and our first boy. Please feel free to message me if you need to talk ♥️

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Our baby’s name was Gabriel Brandon

They said our boy passed around 16 weeks too, not long after I heard his heartbeat for the last time.

Hi Michala. I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of your sad loss. My heart breaks for you 💔 There really are no words at a time like this…. Whilst my circumstances are a bit different I can relate to the pain you’re no doubt feeling right now. I lost my twin boys last month, at 22 weeks. Whilst born alive they weren’t with us for very long due to being so early. It really is shattering, after being so excited about their arrival and having so many hopes for them. It’s the cruelest thing to have them taken away like that. It’s something I’m still trying to come to terms with, and sometimes I’m not sure I ever will…. I’m 37, and it took my husband and I a while to conceive the boys. So whilst it feels wrong to even think about trying again like you I worry I don’t have much time. We do still really want a family so I feel like even though mentally I’m not ready I can’t wait too long x

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Whilst it doesn’t make it better since my loss it has helped me to talk to people who have been through similar things. Seeing how they’ve coped and managed to navigate their grief has given me hope I can too. As at times I haven’t been sure how to. If you’d like to talk more at all my inbox is always open, so do feel free to reach out. In the meantime you and your family are in my thoughts x

Thank you so much for sharing. I definitely feel like I need to talk about it. No one needs to feel alone while going through this.

I'm so sorry. I hope you got some time to hold him and be with him. It's never enough and it will always be the biggest loss. Take your time healing. You will always grieve Tobias. I'm hoping to have more kids and I'm going to be 34 soon, don't lose hope mama. When your ready, that will be the best time.