Think of yourself as more than just the breast milk supplier! You are her mother and she needs a well balanced, happy mother. If it's time to give up BFing in order to feel more balanced again, then that benefit totally outweighs the loss of breast milk. I wouldn't be saying this if your daughter was under 6 months old, but she's older and already past the stage where breast milk is critical. You should totally be proud of yourself! I'm typing this as my 5 month old snoozes away happily while latched on, so I totally get wanting your body back!
I was terrified to wean too! We weaned at 15 months, my goal was at least a year. My mental health was suffering and my patience was nonexistent. But nursing was comfort, sleep routine, everything. He slept latched the entire night and nursed to sleep for every nap. I finally decided to go cold turkey, and since we bedshare anyways I was there to comfort my son through the transition. In the end we had two rough nights but after that he was fine. I felt so much better after that. No more boob friendly outfits, better night’s rest and the burden of being the default parent eased a bit too. You can do this! Countries where women wean later in life tend to have MUCH better support for nursing moms. If you’re pumping in a bathroom, I’d wager suppprt in your breastfeeding journey has been pretty lackluster. You should be so proud of yourself!
I always wanted to BF until 2yrs+ and was lucky that we had an easy journey with it. But it was shortly after her 1st birthday that my mental health was taking a beating from BF , I was getting so angry and agitated every time she was on me 😭 You've done fantastic to carry on so long, bubs will have gotten so much from you! If you feel it's time to stop, then by all means stop! Please ignore any research you read about the benefits for bubs if you're not benefiting from it anymore either. You being your best you is going to be far more beneficial now 🙏 Us mums put so much into our children, but it's just as important to think about ourselves. It sounds like stopping will help you in the long run. And there's no need to replace with cows milk if you don't want to! I'm not a fan of drinking cows milk so never offered that, but she did have a phase of drinking alpro growing up milk which does have extra nutrients in and can have as soya or oat - I only stopped buying because I just couldn't afford it anymore