Feels like I’m raising a baby alone

Hello everyone I am sorry to vent but I have to see if I am overreacting or overthinking. My baby just tuned 7 months old. And my partner and I have definitely had our ups and Downs. We live together and I am I’m at stay at home mom for now. pay all my personal bills. Which my job gives me benefits. Just recently I stopped paying half the rent because my income has decreased. Although I stopped that payment. Ever since the baby was born I 98% payed for all my baby’s things. Food dipers pumps medicine vitamins formula baby food ext. during the time I was helping out, and paying for half of the things him and I use to argue. Why because although I was home I still contributed even he claimed that I was home all day and that I should be the one who not only take care of the baby DAY AND NIGHT! My baby still wakes up about two times at night and he works from 6 am to 630/7 pm so it’s just me and my baby all day. He thinks that he does not have to contribute with chores in the house hold. Every single night I have to cook clean wash bottles pump make sure baby is good for bed. All he does is come home and plays with Baby for about an hour showers the baby then him and Baby are off to bed. I feel like a single parent. I have only have to do the household laundry I do my baby‘s laundry fold cloths clean and disinfect bottles mop and vacuum all the time because he has a cat. And i feel overwhelmed Recently I’ve been demanding for him to contribute financially to our baby and to help out more. Am I wrong ??? He does not even take my feelings on the consideration because he works all day.

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No your not wrong at all

Nope your are not wrong at all in fact… I you weren’t a stay at home mom you would have to pay someone to be that same stay at home mom. You are not his mother and that baby wasn’t made by the Holy Spirit. He needs to do way more than that. And you shouldn’t feel guilty for demanding it. I even think you will realize later on that you are better of alone than with a man like that.

You are not wrong and you’re right to feel frustrated. Even if you’re at “home” you are working. Being a mom is nonstop. That work and your time is valuable. You deserve rest. His time is not more valuable than yours. I highly recommend you check out two books on this topic: How to Keep House while Drowning (Davis) and Fair Play (Rodsky)

It's ridiculous he isn't helping pay for babies stuff. You have to protect yourself and your finances. Personally when I was home I mostly did the cleaning ect but some days I got tired and couldn't do it all because I was exhausted. And so my husband would start complaining about how the house was a mess. So if be there cooking dinner or feeding the baby and i'd say ok so if it's so bad pick up a broom im obviously busy. It's so weird that your other half has been expecting you to take care of him all the time while still not even paying half the finances. no no no. Does he even know how much the stuff for baby costs ? Maybe it would help either circle on the bills and add up the stuff for baby, or have a credit card just for baby stuff so he's aware. Also if I were you i'd look up the cost of daycare in the area and make him aware that that's what you're staving by being home. so really all these months you've been laying all this $$ you've been doing TRIPPLE duty.

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