I hid the remote to the TV so my husband would stop watching it with our baby.
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@Alycen it's been linked to all sorts of things. It is actually not recommended to let children under like 12m or something to watch screens. We let our 10m watch a bit here and there, usually not for more than 15 to 20 minutes, and 99% of the time it's baby signing time.
@Anna-Lila such as what things? To say your relationship isn’t loving or respectful because he watches tv is a bit of a stretch. Is this really the hill you want to die on?
I'm so sorry your spouse went behind your back and not only was letting your baby watch TV, but was having baby watch it *so much*. I don't know what I would do if my partner fostered a screen addiction in our child. The few times I've felt he was letting her watch too much TV, I've reminded him that we don't want her to be addicted and need a screen in front of her to be calm.
@Alycen I read your question as asking about why is it such a big deal for the baby to have been allowed to watch the TV so much. I don't know why her husband watching TV has her questioning the foundation of their relationship. Presumably because her trust in him has been broken to some extent.
Everyone is free to allow or disallow tv access for their own children. 🤷🏻♀️
I totally understand you and I would also feel hurt. It would be good to have a long conversation with your husband because he will never "comply" if he doesn't understand the consequences of letting a child watch TV, or if he simply doesn't agree. For many people, it is not a big deal. Now if you want to prevent him from turning the TV on, hiding the remote might not be enough, though, as the TV can be controlled with a phone or any other remote. I would take the cable away or set up a password!
@Alycen I'm a teacher and I see students who are clearly obsessed with screens all of the time. I can pick them out in my classroom and it hinders their learning capabilities. There's not enough research done yet to pinpoint exactly what the consequences are, but one thing is for sure- they learn best when watching a screen. Unfortunately, that's not the kind of learning we want to promote in the classroom as it hinders other areas of development. Introducing TV at such a young age will modify the brain learning paths to learn with a screen, hindering other pathways. It will become necessary for babies like my son to learn with a screen and I am so against that. I have told my husband all of this and how against it that I am and how I do not want my son learning like that. Learning is my passion and my biggest core-value. So yes, I was extremely hurt when my husband, the man who is supposed to love and respect me most, went against my biggest core value.
@Clémence thank you ❤️ I'm going to see what happens with the remote first. I'm hoping that by me hiding it, he will understand just how much this means to me and not keep trying to turn it on. I will definitely have another conversation with him.
@Anna-Lila thank you ❤️ I'm hoping it will be reversible (Im pretty sure by intervening at this point, it will help things dramatically) He's also starting daycare soon in a wonderful place that doesn't have a TV so that will help too. Getting my baby out of the addiction won't be a problem. I think I'll be fine with that. Im more concerned with my relationship at this point. I will sit down with him soon and talk about it. Thank you for your comment and support ❤️ honestly, it helps a lot ❤️
Why is watching tv such a big deal?