Separation Anxiety

Anyone else’s toddler having separation anxiety?? Suddenly my boy is super duper attached to me. Screams when I leave for work, only I can change his diapers if I’m home (is fine with dad when I’m not there), only I can put him to bed (most nights it takes hours!!), etc…
It’s breaking my heart. Any tips?!
When I’m nursing my daughter it’s especially hard because I can’t do what he wants and then he throws a fit.

Also, his bedtime is a disaster all of a sudden. I used to just put him in his bed and kiss him and leave and now he won’t let me. Idk if he is afraid or just wants me there, but it’s killing me because sometimes it takes 2 hours to fall asleep. Idk if we are doing it too late or too early or what. He also refuses to nap most days now 😫😫.

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Hi mama!!! I instantly came to respond! My son is THE EXACT same way. He was sleep trained, then all of a sudden I have to sit in the room with him to fall asleep (dad is NOT allowed). When he would wake in the night he would scream for hours if I didn’t go to get him (yes he even cried non stop for dad). Couldn’t go pee or leave the room at all without him either crying or following me to make sure I wasn’t leaving for good.

Just last week I said I’ve had enough and started working with our sleep consultant again. As much as I love him and our snuggles, I’m 30 weeks pregnant and can’t do this when the little one comes.

I don’t have many tips since we just started working on it this week, but I will say standing our ground and creating boundaries with sleep has helped A LOT. I spent the night away last night and although my son woke up sad I wasn’t home, he calmed down faster than normal and is now having a good day with dad!

yes! This sounds like the exact same situation! He was sleep trained as well and it was just a sudden thing. Good luck! Let me know how things turn out for you guys!!
A few nights ago I told him I would leave if he wasn’t in his bed because he kept getting up and playing with stuff. So now he brings a toy to bed to play with and it has decreased the amount of time it takes him to get to sleep. Now that it’s been a few nights like that, I’ll keep increasing the boundaries and hope for the best.

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