Single parent ready to date

So I’ve been divorced for 3 years and every time I tried to date I always try to take my son on second date introduce them too early maybe. So far it has not worked maybe men get too scared. Now I met someone I really like which rarely happens. We had 4 dates things are moving pretty fast he knows I have a son but he rarely asks about him, I said why don’t you ask and he said well it’s private you will tell me when you are ready. Fair point. Now I am thinking when shall I introduce them? Shall I just carry on dating him travel a bit and not pressurise him with my son or is it actually worrying that he doesn’t ask much? I bring up my son a lot but very basic stuff. Any advise?

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Congratulations on finding someone you like and seriously considering. Enjoy this beautiful period 🎁💙

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@Sia thanks this is what I needed to read 🙏

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I dated someone in a similar situation. Divorced, with two children and I only met the children when the commitment was clear. I’d say I’d be overwhelmed if he introduced them after a second date or after just a few weeks of knowing me. It’s hard enough to build a relationship with one person, never mind two or three (when children are involved). You want to build a strong connection first and then bring your son into it, so everyone’s comfortable and you can focus on them developing a bond.

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The second date is a lot tbh. You need to slow down. Do the guys have kids? Maybe you should consider dating other parents.

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Your child shouldn’t meet them until a good few months into the relationship in my opinion. You don’t know these men, chances are after one or two dates they’re not looking for anything serious and they’ve definitely not got to know you well enough yet to decide if they want to take you or your child on. It’s too much too soon and that’s probably why most things haven’t worked out. Also, you don’t want your child to develop abandonment issues from meeting and losing all these people.