I need advice please

My ex husband walked out when my daughter was three and moved across the country and started a new family. She only started asking questions when she became a teenager. I was honest but didn't give her every detail. She knows I love her. She is in counseling for the abandonment issues. She also knows she is old enough at 16 to reach out to him if she chooses to. Although that burns me but I can't stop her.

Thanks ladies I'm terrified it's gonna start affecting her mental health so early in life

Sorry I don’t have a daughter but I seen this post and joined because I wanted to comment because I think of this all of the time . Because I’m gonna have to do the same with my son . At the end of the day you need to explain to her it’s okay to have one mommy or one daddy or both mommy and daddy , that doesn’t make you different it just means there is more love for mommy to give you . Tell her sometimes things happen in life to where people have to go away and that only will better for her in the long run because now her and mommy get to have all the fun . Make a negative situation positive so she still knows without a father she’s still so loved and so accepted and you don’t need a father to grow up happy and big and strong

Patenting is hard but you got this!

Thanks she's just now starting to ask questions about him little by little so I need to be prepared

I don't know that anything you can say will stop those feelings. I would share facts only not opinions. Tell her you love her and are here for her and that his choices are not a reflection of her.