I think Andrew Tate ruined my husband.

We are a young couple me and him are both 19 and we have one boy who’s 10 months. We’ve been married a little over a year and it’s been increasingly more difficult to see eye to eye on things. We used to get along all the time and talk about everything but in the last few months he’s started to listen to more and more of Andrew Tates podcast episodes and stuff like that. He’s almost become obsessed with it. He knows that I feel that Andrew Tate is a bad influence and a sexist pig and it always turns into a fight whenever we talk about him. But in the recent months my husband has been kind of implicating some of Andrew Tates beliefs into our marriage. For example my husband thinks he shouldn’t have to help with anything in the house or the kids or our animals. Because he works. And it should be my job to do everything and he can just sit on the couch after he gets off work. He has also completely stopped communicating with me about things because, “He gets to do what he wants when he wants.” Yes we went into this marriage with more traditional views but it’s gotten to the point I feel like I’m drowning. It’s just a huge difference from the man I knew just a few months ago. And I’m so lost on how to fix it. We used to communicate and talk about everything. Now I’m just getting glares and being walked out on whenever I try and talk about something that’s bothering me. What should I do?

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I’d simply leave… let me see/realise what he’s loosing!

I’m 19 my ex is 21 , my ex turned so big headed and money minded after listening to him , he says “he looks up to Andrew Tate” , he even started paying £50 a month for a university class ran by the Tate brothers I think it was to study bitcoin or whatever they do to earn so much money

@Alicia well we live in rural utah so I don’t really think there’s many opportunities for things like that but it’s probably something he’d do given the chance

Honestly it’s not made him a nice person , and with a baby in the way I don’t need it , men who are influenced by Andrew are not going to change , no matter how much you ask them too x

Same with my husband, he constantly watches men from the red pill community. And he's totally become a heartless jerk from it.

It’s so sad that the world we live in now has so many negative outlets and that people are so easily influenced because someone “famous” said it

O no ….

I don’t want to say leave because I obviously don’t know bad it is. BUT you are so so young. You have a ton of life ahead of you. I’m sure you can do better !

@Brittany well the thing is that I love him. And I absolutely love his family. I couldn’t imagine my life without him. We were high school sweethearts and we’ve been together over 2 years and married a year. I just wish I could work it through with him

Knowing that Andrew Tate is very open about disliking women except for sex, I’d leave. If your husband agrees with what he says to the point of mimicking his sexist ways, I’d be willing to bet he sees you the same way now. I’d divorce or at least take some time apart in separate homes to see if he will work on his own issues. Being young doesn’t equal being stuck with a disrespectful individual

Andrew Tate is not allowed in my home. My husband and I spoke about it and after hearing how I felt he simply just doesn’t listen to or watch him. He even had a “friend” who was the same personality wise and he cut him off. To truly love someone you have to have respect for them and I don’t think your husband has that for you or he would not listen to that misogynistic pig. I’m sorry you are going through this. I had an ex who (without mr tate) acted the same way and it took me 7 years (after 3 kids) to realize I deserved better and I was better off alone. I don’t have any solutions except to tell you that you should never lower your expectations of your spouse - married or not and if he is not meeting them , then perhaps it’s time for you to find the courage in yourself to walk away. You are young and life is too short to be unhappy. Your baby deserves a happy mom. All the best to you and let’s hope Andrew Tate gets a knock on the head that knocks some actual sense into him.

The way it sounds - he wouldn’t be willing to do anything to work on it. And loving someone sometimes isn’t enough. Also. His family isn’t going anywhere. You have a baby together. You are tied to them now and as long as you put out the effort with them and perhaps tell them what’s going on, I’m sure your bond will remain. (Same thing happened with me!!!)

girl he is too far gone. if he’s worshiping Andrew Taint, he already sees you as less than him and nothing you say will convince him otherwise, he’s already to that point. Unless you want this to be your life forever, i’d start making a plan because once the seed is planted it’s a hard one to uproot. These men are weak and gullible. They see Taint as a way to help make them “alpha” and they won’t abandon that belief because in their eyes it’s genuinely YOU who is wrong, not him, never him. Very culty, 0/10 do not recommend— at only 19 im very concerned for your safety, i hope you find peace in this and find strength to leave. Anyone who worships Taint or women who supports their partner listening to his ideologies is operating on full Trauma Brain and not in their right mind in my honest opinion. Gotta be missing some major context clues to think he’s a stand-up guy. You are a person of value and your son does not need to have these (shit) beliefs ingrained into him. Sending you love

Unfortunately, I don't think it's the podcast that's made him this way. If he agrees with the views in the podcast, then it's really himself that's the problem. Maybe he has underlying issues that he's not been dealing with, but if he didn't agree in the first place then he wouldn't religiously listen to the guy or implement his ideas in his own life. If he refuses to listen to your feelings on the subject, then I think you need to give him an ultimatum. It could be that you get counseling, or that he needs to help you more. Either way, you deserve a lot better.

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