My husband and I took the love language test together early on in our marriage. Even tho it was obvious what my top 2 were, it was super helpful to take because now he knows exactly what I want for important dates/events. Maybe if y’all casually take it together, he’ll get the idea that you really value gifts on special occasions
i would just say “for future reference i would really appreciate little gifts for important dates, even if it’s just a handwritten letter or a starbucks coffee. i just felt a little disappointed before not getting anything” and i would try to stress that it’s not so much about the monetary value but the thought behind it
If my husband doesn’t get me a gift for something I use it as an excuse to buy myself something, guilt free. lol.