I can’t do it anymore

Sometimes I feel like I can’t do this mum thing. My baby is always unhappy. She never lets me put her down for naps, and she wants to stay connected to my boob all night. (EBF) I’ve just had enough. I never get any time to myself. I have zero support and my partner is out for work 6am-6pm, so is unable to help with the entire day of parenting. He’ll take baby at night to settle her sometimes, but all she does is cry with him, so I can’t get any rest and end up taking her back and reconnecting her to my boob. Today I’ve tried to put her down for naps and she’s only napped probably a total of 30mins over a 11hr wake period. She’s so unhappy. My older child has been full on too. And I just ended up leaving my baby to cry. I hate leaving her to cry. Now I feel broken. I just want some space to breathe. An hour of undisturbed sleep with no one touching me. Why is it so hard. When will it get better. I get so jealous hearing about the babies that nap so easily, and sleep for a good chunk at night. Jeez, I don’t even care if she doesn’t sleep all night, even a 2-3hr stretch would be great. Sorry for the rant. I just feel so so sad.

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Just exactly how I feel… I keep telling myself that it won’t be like this forever and it will pass…

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So sorry to hear your feeling like this. Your not alone and IT WILL GET BETTER! If you feel you want to it may be good seeing/speaking to your HV/GP about your emotional well-being and also to try and help with why baby is crying lots / get some support. Is your partner and the people that are closest to you aware of how you’re feeling, it can be difficult to open up but it is often the best thing to do x

2 things that hopefully could help 🙏🏻 Expressing and getting her on the bottle so that somebody else can feed her sometimes and you can get some proper sleep alone And the Huckleberry app for knowing when she will be ready for a nap so that she doesn’t get over-tired and skip naps. These are the two things that have kept me sane and relatively stress-free, hope they can help you too. I’m not sure where you’re from but I also self-referred for CBT via this link (for anxiety rather than low mood but it would be the same process), I start therapy tomorrow! The normal waiting list is 16 months… but when you have a baby under 1 you automatically get first priority, for obvious reasons! https://www.leedscommunityhealthcare.nhs.uk/our-services-a-z/leeds-mental-wellbeing-service/home/ Only issue might be if this is for Leeds residents only, but hopefully there will be something similar available to you. It was my HV who guided me with what to do so definitely reach out to them ASAP xxx

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