Vent post MIL edition

I feel like my MIL is in every aspect of mine and my partners lives. He's Spanish and so I get their culture is alot more family orientated but he let's her almost 3rd parent our baby even when she's not here. When my baby first stood up at 5 months, he had a go at me and said it was dangerous for the baby because his mum told him so. He keeps telling me things his mum has noticed about my parenting she thinks is wrong e.g. she told him to tell me to put his nappy higher so it doesn't rub and not to get the own brand ones he needs pampers apparently. It's every single thing like this. And when I explained to my partner I just wanna be left to parent our own child our own way with our own opinions, he gets defensive and says his mum knows best because she has 2 kids. It's actually upsetting me so much because I'm the one dealing with all the ppd, night feeds, loneliness, bills, etc but I feel like my views as a mother are meaningless to them both. It feels like they're one team against me even if that's not their intention. His mum lives in Spain too so when she visits she stays here for 3 months at a time and it's just so intrusive. If the baby cries she takes him away from me and says she will handle it etc. If I'm trying to feed him she grabs an extra spoon and tried to join in? I'm all for family time and understand its important but having anyone in your home for 3 months straight let alone someone who moans her bedding is "too washed" and makes you wash it again... it gets me so down. She always complains if I haven't washed the dishes too. She says I should be keeping ontop of everything as my partner works and shouldn't have to come home to dishes.... I work full time too!!!!!! I'm just so annoyed at her I really can't stand her anyone

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These mil are bat shit crazy you need to set boundaries now!!!!

last month

@Beth It feels like she doesn’t understand what private space and boundaries are. I wouldn’t be putting up with this. I’d probably would have said that I wasn’t a seamstress and didn’t want to see her in her bra 😂

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@Amanda honestly! Like seriously how can they not see even a tiny bit how this is completely unacceptable! She came to ask me if her new bra fit ok too... I told my husband and said I was uncomfortable with her asking me if her bra looks OK. And he just said "yeah she asked me too" like???? What 🤣 how can he think that's normal

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I get how you feel. I have a mother in law who tries to be like that. Again it's a culture thing I think (my husband is Indian) but I'm lucky in that part of the reason my husband's previous marriage broke up was due to her interfering parents. Therefore he shuts his mum down quite quickly if she starts, it doesn't stop her saying things though. The last criticism I had was that my husband is always cooking when she calls (husband explained I was with baby so he was cooking) she replied that these modern women are so weak because in her day she did everything! Hmm. Choosing to rise above the rage and billion retorts I could make about how happy she wasn't and the type of relationship she had with her husband (abusive) and remind myself she's saying it because she's jealous.

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This has really annoyed me! I’m Spanish and I find her behaviour completely disrespectful. Your partner really needs to grow up, start respecting you as the mother of his child and stand up to his psycho mum. I would not be welcoming her into my house after manipulating your partner to go against your wishes and taking your baby off you as if she’s the mum! It’s so out of order! And don’t get me started with the too washed sheets?! What’s this about?! 😂