Tempted to drink or smoke

I feel like a terrible person because I am so tempted to drink or have a cigarette and I know what’s best but the hormones and weight gain and emotions are making me feel so ungrateful and emotional or emotionless… I feel like a failure as a mother and he isn’t even here yet. I just want to be the best mother I can be but my mental health is suffering. Can’t really talk to my doctor about it because my boyfriend comes to every appointment and I don’t want him to know I’m feeling this way.
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Hey If your struggling your more than welcome to drop me a message I believe that we should all be there for each other as pregnacy can be hard expecially with hormones and other people not being able to understand there's also mental health help you could always ring your midwife in private when possible to get the support you need x

Call your midwife and tell her how you feel x

It’s a struggle and you’re not alone! I’ve been dealing with feeling the same way. And you’re by no means a failure as a mom. I feel completely wiped working full time all I can do is work and then sleep! I would absolutely loveeeee a glass of wine (or 3) lol. Talking with my psychologist helps a bit but it still isn’t easy. It’s a temporary time in our lives though and that’s what’s helping me get through!

I am right there with you love, especially because I associate having a drink with relaxation. Nothing beats a nice glass of wine in the bath or beer and pizza on a friday night. Wanting to do something you like, take care of yourself or even do something fun is completely normal, understandable and It's nothing to feel guilty about or feel ashamed about. I keep telling myself that it's just a short period of time and that come summer, I'll be able to have that beer in the sunshine. :) You're not alone and all these hormones and body changes are NOT easy.

You're not alone, I m 21 weeks pregnant I just quit smoking 3 days ago. You're mental health is important to.

I’m with you girl, I haven’t been sober this long since I was 15yrs old and up until now I was doing really good but now that we’re in the dead of winter and there’s not much going on, I find on the weekends I get a bit bored and I get super emotional because normally I’d have a few drinks or smoke a j and I’d have so much fun. Last weekend I wanted to go out and go to the casino and at first I was like “I can do this sober no problem!” But when we went to leave I just started crying and said to my husband “I don’t even want to go anymore it’s not fun if I can’t get tipsy.” I’ve been really trying to find new hobbies, I spend a lot of time planning for baby and online shopping but trust me, it hasn’t been easy! Gotta take it a day at a time and think that it’s only temporary, and 100% worth it for a healthy baby ❤️

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