Not even standing but daycare request shoes

13 month old not standing (or obviously walking) and daycare out him in the “1 year old” room where all the other kids are walking. I think he’s just going to take his time. I’m only concerned because daycare is asking for shoes for him. All recommendations I’m reading online say barefoot is best. Shouldn’t early childhood “educators” know this? How do I address it? Are any other parents putting shoes on non-walkers?

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Yes our daycare requires shoes in the 1yr old room as well. I’ve seen some non walkers wearing just soft leather moccasins. As our teacher explained, it’s more about protecting their feet outside.

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Thanks. Do you think asking them to only put them on outside is reasonable?

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You can always ask, but I know our daycare wants them on all day because there are 16 kids and putting shoes on/off is just too much. With that, my kid is known as always missing his left shoe and thankfully they find humor in it.

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Ion know… my baby has been wearing hard sole shoes since 3 months and he’s been waking since 10 mon… I just think maybe putting shoes on your child (despite what’s said on parenting blogs) may benefit ya child and their development of walking..: 🤷🏾‍♀️ at least it did for me- despite public opinion.

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I would just get the soft sock-like shoes that have a slightly thicker bottom than the sock material.

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putting shoes on baby's early has nothing to do with helping them walk better. When you allow your child to be mostly barefoot for the first 2 years their feet grow properly and have less chances of issues later in life.

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yes that’s what all the American Pediatrics etc recommendations say! I feel like daycare should already know this….

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My 11 month old has worn shoes since she was 6 months old but she is in her walker quite a bit

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We did Burts Bees snap on fabric moccasins first, then Robeeze soft sole shoe when he outgrew those. Both are super soft and nonrestrictive. Worn mostly for warmth during winter and to help keep socks on.

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Honestly, it’s probably a hygiene or safety issue and not related to what is best for kids learning to walk.

They probably require shoes for all because some are wearing shoes. Similar to how In infant room, they usually require no shoes or booties over shoes.

It’s probably to protect toes so the walkers don’t step on feet/toes or because they may bring stuff in on their shoes and they don’t want kids barefoot walking on it.

I’d just do soft soles shoes. If their policy is to wear shoes, they’re not going to agree to outside only.

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