Potty training

Does anyone have a late potty trainer, like me? It's been a back and forth battle, nothing consistent.

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She's 2.5 and will be 3 in July.

We just started the process this past weekend. I have a newborn as well so it's very hard to be consistent and strict about it

Me! My daughter has a speech delay so we’ve been working on that and getting better at communicating before talking potty training. I bought the Little big feelings 3 day potty training course to use when it’s time!

We tried a week ago and my son wasn’t ready. He just screams and stands up from the toilet just to poop on the floor right in front of it. So we’re going to try in a couple weeks. My son is also 2.5, 3 in July.

My son also has been on and off

Sames! I have twin boys and it’s just hard keeping up with their routine and making sure they get equal attention. So much commitment it’s tiring 😮‍💨

I feel like I'm just always working and can't dedicate too much time to it but he has pooped once in his potty but pees more in it. He still doesn't like letting us know when he wants to go so it's also hard 😅 even asking him every few minutes doesn't help because he says no but already went in his diaper😭

Yes! She was starting to want to and then we had our son and went backwards away from pull ups to traditional style diapers as she wants baby diapers 🤦‍♀️

No luck here.... just bought some training underwear so will try that soon and see if it helps

So my son will pee and poop in the potty on his own when he has no pants on. We put underwear, pants or pull ups and he just pees or poops in them. Our doc said he just isn’t ready. Keep him pantless when you can so he is practicing. The less pressure the better.

@Becky my son regressed when I brought our new baby home too

@Ashley my son is speech delayed as well. Have you checked out Ms Rachel on YouTube? We started watching her maybe 2 months ago my son has picked up 2-3 words and had learned some sign language as well

@Lauren yes! She’s also working with a speech pathologist which has really helped!

We are 2.5 and going to start here soon. I had tried last year and he wasn’t ready.
I would have already started but we thought we were moving and I didn’t want to get that all messed up at once.

I need to get over my nerves lol

I'm so glad to hear that I'm not alone. Thank you for all the responses, ladies. Just ordered the potty watch, training pants, and a new portable potty seat. I hope something works because she'll be doing good for a while, and then it just becomes sporadic.

She's officially potty trained. It happened within 1.5 months before her 3rd birthday. There's hope, ladies!

The best thing I did was put her in training underwear. No diapers or pull-ups, except for nightime. Also, she showed me she was more ready. Just be patient about the #2s. She was really scared for a while. Keep cleaning the messes up, no reaction, just encouragement. Small rewards helped, too!

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3 months pp I have 2 other toddlers I work 10 hours shifts I do laundry I cook I pickup the slack on bills cause my partner can never pay on time and sometimes doesn’t help pay he says he’ll pay his bill but then doesn’t at times. We woke up this morning when we first met he told me don’t get out of bed without kissing so that’s why I said no kiss

Do I send scan photo or do I not?

Me and the baby’s dad split up because he was a narcissist and I wasn’t putting myself through that again, he knows when the scan is, I reminded him over text when it was, it’s not for another 2 weeks yet but told him to let me know whether he’s coming asap which was 3 weeks ago now and still no reply, my aunt is coming with me instead, I asked him for half the money for the initial costs of getting everything such as pram, crib, nappies etc and he’s said no because he’s not paying for stuff at my house when we’re not together 🤦‍♀️ I’m going to be exclusively breastfeeding so there won’t be no overnight stays for a while at least and he won’t be able to have the child without me around, he knew I was planning on breastfeeding beforehand anyways so can’t kick up a storm about that but when we split up I told him that if he wants updates I’m leaving it up to him to ask and leaving it up to him whether he’s involved or not so he knows it’s down to him, my question is, he knows when the scan is, hasn’t told me he’s coming, he knows to ask for updates, do I send the scan photo and due date to him or do I let him ask? I don’t want to come across as horrible and a “bitter mum” by not telling him but also feel where I’ve told him it’s up to him to ask for updates it should fall on him to ask.

Annoying neighbour! Help!

Since we moved in Saturday 31st May next door neighbour has knocked on the door 4 times. She also seen when we are in the garden and come into our garden without asking to talk to us over 5 times. That’s 9 interactions on day 7 of us living here (today is 7th June). This is not including her coming into the garden to talk to my mum when she was watching our 16 month old. Today she waited until she saw me coming home at 11am from walking the dogs and knocked on the door within minutes of me walking in (I was still drying the dogs) and told me I needed to pick up a piece of poo in our garden. She had obviously been looking in the garden to notice this as it was a small piece that I had missed when I let them both out just before going for a walk with them. When I would have gone to let them out again I would have inspected everywhere again like I do each time. I remained polite and said I am going to pick it up I just missed it this morning and she carried on screwing up her face saying why would I leave it just sat there. I told her it wasn’t her business and to go away. My partner works shifts so isn’t here or I would have sent him round to deal with it. I feel like our privacy has been invaded and I can’t relax in our new home. For context we have a private garden but at the side is access to walk straight in. It is private rented. Any advice welcome 🤣 it’s also an elderly woman, VERY nosy.

How do you stop public tantrums

For a toddler.

People keep telling me to explain to my toddler, who is 20months and doesn't fully understand me or communicates clearly, and gently tell them not to do that.

I don't get it? They don't communicate fully, and they are in the middle of a screaming fit.

Scenario 1.
She saw someone get off the train and decides she wants to, so I stop her saying this is not our stop and offer her a distractions. Which she throws and starts running off, so I stop her and say again to her and try to find something else, but at this point she is lost in the tantrum. Kicking, punching, pulling my glasses of, high pitch scream.
I do not want to let her run off, I want to teach her to stay with me in public, so I refused a "1 off" situation, so I tried to keep her near me. She would do this in the pushchair, carrier, anything. Once she decides to do something, it's absolute chaos. I've never spoilt her, or let her do what she wants after I say no, and I refuse to let her go to danger.
Unfortunately, this was during a morning commute and everyone suffered including me.
The best I could do was try to keep her with me fighting me, and try to stop her punching me which was hard as I was also trying to keep her with me and needed my hands.

Scenario 2. Beach, cafe, restaurant, anything. She has no patience, and she wants whats on my plate. Again, I've never given her food from my plate, she has exactly the same food on her plate, so i don't know why she does this. But, I point at the same food on her plate to show her we have the same, and she starts screaming.

Like, how do you stop this?

I kept calm and cool, but the moment we leave the place, like the train, she stops. And then I break (probably from the stress of keeping cool) nd tear up. It's humiliating, embarrassing, and stressful.

My husband is a bit stricter than me in a sense of he just takes the food from her or raises his voice quite loud and he can make a fairly scary face. But, this actually makes her worst and I can see he's about to do it and ask him not to, I say the same thing each time "it will only get worst" he does and it she somehow Shrieks louder and then starts getting everything around her and throwing it and hits her head.

I feel trapped, like I dread going outside, I dread going to the shop with her, I dread everything. I try, because I want her to be exposed to public places, but I'm just getting beaten up by her for no reason, she does what she wants and I am so lost.

Me and my husband wanted two kids, but there is absolutely no way I could look after a baby whilst she is running off or throwing a tantrum.

I'm alone most the time so not one can help me.

Would you be mad?

Say you are a MIL. Your son and his wife cannot swing childcare for your son's cousin's wedding (MIL nephew, sister's son). So instead of neither of them coming or dragging a very vocal and hyper active 3 year old to a wedding, son calls his friend (long time friend, most of the family knows) to go with him, so he can support his cousin and family. Groom (cousin) and bride are happy. Would you be mad at your son and daughter in law?

Moms on here who lucked out and didn't get a strong willed/persistent child thinking they have it all figuered out

Any other parents who were blessed with a strong willed child get so frustrated with moms on here giving them advice how its so easy if you just do x,y,z because it worked well with their child?
I made a post about how my son is a runner and so many moms being l like "if youre just consistent with them theyll listen toy you after a few days" ....🤣🤣🤣. I know they say this because it WORKED with their kid but I find it so patronizing like they think I haven't done my absolute best and read all the books and it couldn't be possible that my child is just strong willed AF. And that its my fault.