Annoying mother in law comment

I can’t help but feel so frustrated right now and I don’t know if I’m overreacting, so please help. I’ve been struggling to conceive for 4 years now, have had 4 ivf failures and a miscarriage on my first positive test in those 4 years. Lately my MIL seems to think praying is the answer and she’s been going off to do her own investigations and speaking to mediums etc to find out if we will conceive. It’s been doing my head in as I find it so intrusive and I haven’t said anything to her yet. Today she’s texts me to say, she’s been doing her bit and praying and that I need to keep on top of my sex life and do my bit. Like seriously? Is it just me or is that a really sh*tty comment as if to say we haven’t been having sex all this time, the amount of ovulation strips I’ve done & taking my temperature has been hell and for her to say such an insensitive comment has really made me angry. I haven’t told my hubby what she’s said yet, what would you do? Am I been over sensitive jabout it? Or is it a crappy comment? What would you reply back?

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I would tell your husband and really make him understand this is out of order! You have been dealing with the mental,emotional and physical effects of ivf and you have your own pressure on your self and you don’t need it from others! I am going through ivf to I know how you feel. Tell your mother in law you appreciate her help but it’s not needed and it’s making you very upset. Tell her you appreciate the prays and to continue as that’s the only part she needs to take in this journey. Tell her this is yours and your husband journey no one else’s and what ever god wills will happen when it’s right. If you don’t say something now imagine when you do have kids she will interfere. I had to be like this with my in laws not just mother in law but my husbands aunties “have you done this have you done that” your husband needs to be on your side and sort his mother out. x

Oh gosh! I'd just tell her it will happen when it's meant to happen! You can't make it happen, your trying your hardest and you would appreciate it if she would lay off. You'll be sure to let her know when it does happen.... My fiancées family are very persistent too but not overly. We do get the odd comments off his mum and sister like " is my niece or nephew cooking yet" ect but they get told I'm not a miracle worker and I've got PCOS it will happen when it happens!

@Amanda thank you so much!! That really helped! I ended up speaking to hubby about it and he also said it was really insensitive especially as it makes u feel like all these procedures and ivfs have been done for nothing because simply her prayers are the answer !! Like what?! But I also understand she means well and isn’t saying it in a horrible way but it’s just way too Intrusive. I already worry how she’s gonna be when kids do arrive as she can be quite controlling, I will definitely be saying something. Sorry to hear you’re on your ivf journey too, it’s so challenging, I really wish you all the best with it 💕

@Claire I totally know how you feel as we’ve been pressured so much since we’ve been married and it really hasn’t helped my stress levels To the point now where it hasn’t happened and now my husbands sibling who is 10 years younger than us, has had a baby before us. It just has nothing to do with anyone so I don’t know why people feel the need to get involved in private matters! Good luck to you and thank you for your advice!

I am glad you spoke to him and he understands he needs to be by your side. Stand your ground and stay strong you have this. Thank you. All the best and baby dust. x❤️x

If she gets too controlling when baby comes then just speak to her directly and tell her xx

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