Not okay

As am written this tears cant stop rolling down my cheeks am so tired of not feeling unloved and of being used by guys.my last relationship the guy l was with was using me for money he literally owes me $10000 now he hsnt finished paying for it. The current relationship am in l feel the same , oky he proposed to me on my birthday in Dec and we planning on our wedding ,he is a bit better What made me write this is that this morning l got home from work l do night shifts.l was talking to him he seemed so un interested in what l was saying l ,but the moment the ex called because she wanted to speak to her daughter who stays with us during the weekends he started talking to her about the wedding she had gone to because she is an MC.Was so excited to talk to her made me feel like am nothin l mean so little to him.It completely broke me down.l have a 7 month year old and l started working when she was 3 months so that we could save up for our wedding which is in April this year, he has contributed nothing towards the wedding l have bought flight tickets(wedding is overseas)paid for the wedding venue he has not even contributed a dime.l dont even feel like he wants this because am the only one who keeps planning he dsnt even put in any effort Feel like am forcing things too much..Got no one to talk to about this l feel so alone,l cant call off the wedding my parents are super excited for us to come and for the wedding.Sorrrrrrrrry for the long post😔😔 am just not okay.Thanks for reading till the end!!!! Any words of encouragement will be greatly appreciated ,

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last week

Ummm yes you can call the wedding off. Just cuz your parents are so excited for it, doesn’t mean you can’t call it off. Would they really be so excited knowing your feeling like this? Don’t do something so big like marriage if your not completely comfortable with everything

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Also why did you go back to work when yoir baby was 3 months can't he work? Does he work? Xx

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I would really think long and hard before marrying this guy lovely 💔 I was in a similar situation paid for everything etc engaged but there would be no wedding unless I saved as he just proposed but there was no like right let's get savings etc way more to my story than that. Bur were not together anymore and I feel alot happier already. He's even living in mine until he finds somewhere 🙃 can I ask do you pay for most things like does he help towards bills or anything. Your relationship should be a partnership and you both should be contributing to the wedding. The fact you paid for the wedding. He should be super grateful and make an effort with you emotionally if he can't contribute financially. You deserve you so much better 💗 I think you should talk to him about how he's making you feel and if nothing changes please reach out to your parents yes they are excited for the wedding but if they knew how upset and broken you were maybe they wouldn't be. Hope your OK xxxx

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I agree to all above advices, im sorry. Still go abroad, like holiday, go without him as he hasn't contributed, have space/ time. Love yourself. Go with family member who you can be yourself and trust. If ge is like this now, he will be worse, a lot worse later. Marriage doesn't fix things. He is too comfortable and disrespectful. You take too much on. Hugs

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Sorry you are going through this so close to your wedding day. His lack of enthusiasm and contribution is disheartening. You're too emotional right now to think clearly. Most here would agree that you should reconsider marrying him. Your parents/family will understand and support you. He's not all in now. Think about how significantly less he'll be later, thus how much more miserable you'll be.