Adult daughter with child home and disrespect towards me.
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Yeah, she has a mom, and I love our grandbaby because he's an innocent baby brought into a world like ours and has to have the parents he has. She's come out of a supposedly narssassistic relationship, and of course, I let her and baby move home, and it's been nothing but disrespect ever since. Disregard for our house rules . Expect my husband and I to drop our lives to help her raise and care for the baby. I told her in the beginning that she could come home, but she had to follow house rules and get her stuff together so she could be on her own two feet , her own place. Instead, she's talking to me with disrespect, telling me instead of asking, and arguing over house rules . She tells me to shut up. She's 23 and wanna act like she's the boss, sorry to vent....
Sounds like your daughter may be the narcissist. Do you have younger children of your own witnessing this? I would completely disengage and write a note to her that she will be asked to leave next time. If there is a next time - give her 2 weeks to move out. This WILL continue over and over unless you enforce boundaries and consequences. It’s our job as parents to do that or they will never learn to be Adults. Children need us to set standards and follow through. They’re always going to test us! She will continue to treat you like this unless YOU change. I’ve raised 4 children 1 who gave me a hard time - but once I disengaged and raised my standards the relationship has turned around. It has become respectful on both sides and I feel that we can continue build from there. Most importantly my 3 other children are watching and taking from us. Parenting is the hardest job in the world! You are doing a great thing supporting your daughter. Be the mother you want her to be ❤️ good luck
She might feel that way because you are her mom and that is your grandchild. Some people feel like that is enough to be entitled to support from you. Just a guess.