Should I have her stay or leave?

Once finding out that I was having twins, my mother insisted upon her and my dad flying out for a month to help us get situated. We didn’t have the space for her to stay with us, but we paid for an Airbnb nearby and were happy for the help. Initially, we were very grateful, as I had a really rough delivery and was completely bedridden for the first few days (hemorrhaging 4x, requiring 5 transfusions, and developing a hematoma in my Abdominal wall). Now, though, she’s not being as helpful as I would expect someone to be. She’ll come over to hold the babies and help with feedings, but what we really need is help with housework- laundry, cooking, cleaning pump parts, etc. Given one baby was in the Nicu for several days and I’m both breastfeeding and pumping/supplementing, I’m doing something related to feeding 2 out of every 3 hours. She’ll help with housework but only if I specifically ask every single time, like hey can you clean this, put that away, etc. I’m growing tired of having to explain the same set of things that need to be done. Also, it’s not fun for me having to repeatedly ask for things. Yesterday she came over, and wanted to hold the baby (who was sleeping and would have been fine to put down). In frustration, my husband told Her to put down the baby and start helping clean pump parts. She went ballistic, basically threatened to leave because I don’t let her hold them enough. She says she feels like hired help because I keep asking her to do things. I talked her down from a ledge but now im tempted to send her home anyway- im still recovering, and while another set of hands is helpful, it’s clear she’s there for her benefit and not to help us. But then I feel selfish for asking for the help with housework. (She also called me selfish, which I didn’t take too kindly to.) What would you guys do?