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So my husband smokes and so does his friends (including her godfather and stuff). When planning events or having my baby around I get really really nervous with tree smoke, she’s two months old. He doesn’t feel that it’s a big deal and it’s the same like drinking around her (I do that occasionally with a glass or two of wine, not the same thing imo). Any other smokers out there who can tell me it’s okay to have baby around it? If it’s not that big of a deal I feel like I can relax; I also don’t want to keep fighting about it but I also want to keep her safe. I’m a FTM and although I also like smoking too, which I haven’t done since I got pregnant, I don’t believe in sacrificing her health for my pleasure. Thoughts?

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No I wouldn’t allow it

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My bf smokes multiple times a day- ALWAYS outside and never around baby and when he comes back inside he will always take off those clothes and then shower and brush teeth. Smoke lingers and is not safe for babe

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@Adrienne this is perfect I think I will do that! I feel like when I say it he acts like I’m overreacting and keeps saying oh it’s not that much she’s fine and makes me feel like I’m being overbearing 😐 he’ll probably listen to her doc

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I do not think it’s appropriate to smoke around my kids. I can go outside

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Agree with everyone else. Sorry you are having to even consider these things/have these conversations—it’s ludicrous to have to explain/convince another adult to put a baby’s needs above their own needs/pleasure. I have so much empathy for you! At any rate, I find that it helps to ask these questions to the pediatrician while my child’s father is present. The concern is taken more seriously, and I don’t have to be “the bad guy” (which typically elicits defensiveness and a fight from my SO). So, if it’s safe for you to do so (and you won’t “get in trouble” for putting him on blast at the doctors office), this strategy may create some change, if your requesting it isn’t budging behavior. Lots of hugs!!