I need opinnions

Hi, so I am struggling with a very hard decision. I just need advice from people other than my family. None of them like my boyfriend at all because he has been abusive to me in the past. He blames me for everything. I haven't been feeling good the past month because of my nausea from morning sickness it's my first pregnancy and he just makes me feel so small and lazy because all I want to do is sleep all day i am just so depressed. I do sleep alot but he be Littles me everyday because he does the dishes or cooks more often than me right now. Which before pregnancy I was usually the one who handled it. I am just so stressed. I live across the country from my family so I don't have support here and I just don't know what to do. From a mother's perspective what would yall do? I am scared to part ways and do it on my own and have to deal with the struggles of being a single mom or having to deal with a baby dad that does things out of spite. But also being here is really hurting my mental health and I really don't see a calm future ahead. We always try but it always comes back to feeling resentment. I am only 12weeks pregnant so I feel like time is ticking for me to make a decision.

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3 days ago

I left an abusive spouse several years ago. I wasn’t pregnant but I can’t imagine how awful he would have treated me if I was. And if I had had a kid with him, I would have still walked away somehow and raised that kid myself. Heck I took our dog because he was a crap human being. If it feels abusive, you should absolutely leave. Love is not abusive no matter what kind of gaslighting crap he tries to tell you

3 days ago

You poor thing. This guy seems like a (excuse my French) and ass! You need to be protected and so does your baby so do right by both of you. Sucks that you have to make this decision but I would encourage you to get out. Go home to your family it will be hard but staying will compromise your ability to care for yourself and your child. You want your child to grow up knowing you will do anything to give them a good life even if that means leaving the made who contributing to making them. A lot of people on here talking about what if he abuses the child but something to think about is him abusing you in front of your child. That teaches them what to expect in their own adult lives. It’s a cycle and it’s up to you to break it. You can do it! Sending you all the strength and healing vibes! Follow mothersunandthecaptian on Instagram for inso..you are not alone! You can do it💕

3 days ago

I’ve been with terrible partners that my family didn’t like, and at the end of the day they were right every time and none of those relationships worked out. Your family has your best interest at heart and wants what’s best for you. I’d plan a trip cross country to visit your family and see if they will let you stay so you don’t have to go back.

3 days ago

It's scary thinking about leaving someone you've been with for a while especially with a baby on the way, but you have to take care of your mental health. Baby can feel everything you're feeling and if you want to stay in an abusive relationship then something you have to consider is what will he be like with your child? Will he also abuse them? And if he does, will you allow it? I would not stay with someone who can potentially abuse my child. This is something you have to think about in regards to the future. You are stronger than how he makes you feel. You aren't doing anything wrong or being lazy while taking it easy during pregnancy, you're literally growing a human. You are allowed to be tired and want to rest. He's trash so do what you normally do with trash and throw it away.

3 days ago

If you can go home, go be with your family, you need all the support you can get right now! Sometimes I just need someone to grab me a bottle of water. You don't have to go through this alone. My bf, I think he forgets im pregnant at times and there is no moment alike! We can't always do for ourselves. There are highs and lows. Educate him on how you feel and what you are going through! If he doesn't level up to be the man you need, make your exit. Your child will understand. You only get one life to live, make it a stress free beautiful one full of love and support! 🙏🏽💞