Online dating is stressful

Guys these days are kind of hit or miss. Even older men. Theywant someone perfect and capable of taking care of them financially etc. Dating these days suck. I don't remember having so many trash messages years ago. But then again I had no children. Could it be that being a single mom makes me less valued?

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I don’t think it’s too much to ask for a woman to be capable of taking care of herself financially.

@Rebekah no, to take care of them. I am not looking for someone to take care of me financially. I am thankfully not worried about finances but the guys that have been messaging is usually asking in a backhanded way if I can buy them things or how I feel about a guy moving in. Etc. I would not ask the same of a guy.

What apps are you on?

If they ask you for shit they are scammers so don’t do it! Especially when you don’t know them well enough and I mean anything less than a year.

@EmpressS I only tried bumble but kinda turned off. Any recommendations are welcome but I am kinda scared to go back on apps because it is just kinda sketchy now. I used am app many years ago and it was not this sketchy.

They’re playing with you or are scammers. Be careful, these days you’ll come across more scammers than anything.

@IssaLadyE right? That's what I am thinking. Because the conversations quickly go into what I can do for them, like housing, etc and I cut that off really quick because I am not looking for someone to leech off of me. I'm not rich by any means but I am doing comfortable with what I have to raise my baby.

@Indy yea. I figured as much. It kinda scared me off the app. I want to meet someone but I don't know how I'll do that when I'm mostly surrounded by other moms and work around mostly women. My social time is with my baby tbh

Oh ok. Yeah that’s a red flag.

If you're trying to date have others you know family or friends introduce you to people they know are single. Also a subscription to Whitepages.com to rule out all the crazies or guys with a really long criminal background. Just a friendly suggestion. I was single for a long time. It can get lonely but God's timing is perfect. Trust the right person will come into you're life at the right time.

Yes. I wouldn't even tell them that I am mom unless they are the one..

I would ask about there kids 1st.

Uuugh guy are dumb. I'm so sorry you're going through that 😔