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3 days ago

Mom guilt.

I haven't done the greatest job with my own self care. I have the opportunity to go to a crafting class at one of our local libraries next week and I already feel guilty about going. It's in the evening, which will leave my husband to bathe out 3 young kiddos (7, 4, and almost 2) and put them to bed on a school night too. Normally we both do these tasks. How do I not feel guilty about having an evening out?
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3 days ago

When you go to crafting class, your kids will have an opportunity to experience something they are not accustomed to. When it goes well, they will gain more independence to know that they can thrive at bedtime with or without mommy there. (I know daddy will be there, but he's not you) or plug in something you think is more fitting for your family. Your kids will also learn something about you when you show them what you were able to craft! I think it could be a great experience for everyone!

3 days ago

@Jessica he has been out, it's been a while since (last summer really) and honestly I don't have guilt about leaving him to do it. I feel guilty about not being there for my kiddos. I know he is capable of doing it. He has done it before when I've had girl scouts with the oldest or a meeting for a nonprofit I volunteer with.

3 days ago

Has your husband ever had an evening out? If so (and I’m willing to bet he has) no guilt needed! It’s only fair. If somehow you have the worlds most reliable spouse and he’s never left you to put the kids to bed alone even once in the last 2 years then you can do something nice for him later as a thank you

3 days ago

That’s his job!! Don’t feel guilty about him doing his job. If it stresses him out it’s good for him to learn how to deal with that to build a better relationship with his kids. You on the other hand can’t be a good mom if you aren’t good to yourself ! So you need to go out and do things that make you happy big or small :)

3 days ago

What @Fran said 👏👏👏 Your hubs will be fine. I can't even imagine not going out to do something for myself for 7 years. Society has made moms feel shame for not devoting 100% of themselves to their kids and I think that needs to change. Esp if you have a supportive partner

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