Single mom is not an option

I have 2 kids and my boyfriend and he works every day as a landscaper in the sun 7am to 3:30pm. So i get the girls ready for school, take them, cook, clean, grocery shop etc. he mainly is very helpful when he comes home he takes care of the kids helps me clean etc. all he likes to do on his spare time is watch anime or play video games and smoke weed. He also has type 2 diabetes which he doesn’t control and low testosterone;so yes our sex life is really bad…. We have broken up before and i tried the whole single mom thing and it’s horrible. Doing everything on my own plus working i dont know how anyone does that. I figure i do the same thing with or without him except with him he helps a lot and gives me his checks…. So every now and then (i wanna say once a week) he has this bipolar personality where he is an absolute a hole jerk). He becomes disrespectful and silent and i just stay away from him and then a few hours later once he is high he is all nice again. I am not sure what to do because when he acts this way its not every day. He is not physically abusive so I figure other moms have worst problems and i should just suck it up. He was mad this morning for example because i brought the younfest one in the room to wake him up. It was 11am he already slept 12 hours. I figured he would be happy but no he was furious saying he wakes up at 6:30 every day and would like to sleep in for once. I mean i get it but i wake up every single day at that tome too because his alarm goes off sometimes i cant go back to sleep. Regardless i have to wake up at 8am for the girls. I havent slept in in years. Like i get it he got mad but why drag it on. Why not just be mad for the moment not the day?

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I'm so sorry, sending big hugs. That's such a tough spot to be in ♡

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Well I'm just going to say this....if he doesn't take care of himself your going to be a single mother against your will so there that. You cannot force him to care about himself or his ability to let stuff go. Since you have no desire to leave all you can do is tell him stuff and hope he listens

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Yes. I'm a type 1 diabetic so I take insulin. Other than the type of medication we take there's little to no difference between the two types of diabetes.

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Maybe you should tell him to get treated for psychologist and psychiatrist so that way he can be on his proper meds if you wanna be with him otherwise you’re gonna be miserable forever and I don’t think that’s all if you want to live or have your children live. oh, and just because he’s not physically hurting, you doesn’t mean it’s not abusive mentally abusive behavior is just as bad as physical abuse of behavior and if you want your kids to grow up thinking that behavior is OK I suggest you do something different . I know being a single mom is hard because I once was a single mom but it is possible, is it hard? Yes, is it possible yes plenty of women do it and they’re a lot happier without being with that person that makes them unhappy and the kids and happy as well.