@Amor I have to do better and addressing it in the moment! I can tell my Mom to let me handle things and she gets it but my MIL is another story 😅
@Zhé Thank you! That’s very well put, gets the point across and still incredibly respectful! I hope that she’ll receive the message for how I intend it!
Wow that’s annoying. My mil does repeat what I say, but as a question. She has limited education, but thinks she knows everything and is always right. So, when I say something she doesn’t like or know about she repeats what I just said. How I handled it was to tell her, yes what I said is correct along with examples. As for butting in when trying to deal with your child. My mom does that to me. It’s beyond annoying frustrating. I finally told her let me handle it please. And she backed off.
“I don’t mean any harm when I say this. When you do xyz, it’s counterproductive to the lessons im trying to teach and the tools I’m wanting to instill in *daughters name*. Please let me to parent her the way I see fit. And if I need any extra assistance or support, I’ll ask that you affirm the same way that I do instead of undermining the work that I’ve already done. She needs to understand that I am the parent and what I say is with regard to how we run our household. Thank you for understanding and I trust that you will do your best to help us raise a well balanced, mannered, etc little one.”
Most of the time my mom will stop herself. But she can be very controlling and it’s a struggle for her. Uh I hear you my mil is nuts.