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Echo

Is anyone else’s MIL an echo?! Anytime we’re around her she repeats EVERYTHING I say to my LO and it drives me insane! She even intervenes during tantrums while I’m trying to work through the big feelings with my toddler and help her regulate. Or she’ll offer her junk while I’m encouraging healthier alternatives. It’s counterproductive imo. How do you deal with it while being respectful?!
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Most of the time my mom will stop herself. But she can be very controlling and it’s a struggle for her. Uh I hear you my mil is nuts.

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@Amor I have to do better and addressing it in the moment! I can tell my Mom to let me handle things and she gets it but my MIL is another story 😅

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@Zhé Thank you! That’s very well put, gets the point across and still incredibly respectful! I hope that she’ll receive the message for how I intend it!

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Wow that’s annoying. My mil does repeat what I say, but as a question. She has limited education, but thinks she knows everything and is always right. So, when I say something she doesn’t like or know about she repeats what I just said. How I handled it was to tell her, yes what I said is correct along with examples. As for butting in when trying to deal with your child. My mom does that to me. It’s beyond annoying frustrating. I finally told her let me handle it please. And she backed off.

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“I don’t mean any harm when I say this. When you do xyz, it’s counterproductive to the lessons im trying to teach and the tools I’m wanting to instill in *daughters name*. Please let me to parent her the way I see fit. And if I need any extra assistance or support, I’ll ask that you affirm the same way that I do instead of undermining the work that I’ve already done. She needs to understand that I am the parent and what I say is with regard to how we run our household. Thank you for understanding and I trust that you will do your best to help us raise a well balanced, mannered, etc little one.”

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