*potential trigger warning* help with a gift

my friend had a miscarriage. We both have one baby and are rather young. Neither of us knew that miscarriages could be/are painful. When she shared with me her experience she let me know how much pain and sorrow she went through on top of the fact that it happened on her college graduation day so she missed her graduation AND she found out a few days earlier one day before her wedding day. She’s gone through a lot in a short time frame and I want to get her something next time i see her. I’m just not sure what i should get her. I want it to be something that shows i sympathize with with her but not something over the top. Just really not sure what’s quite right in this situation. Like if I got her flowers should i attach a card ? Don’t want to make things worse. Thanks for your help!

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https://itsbodily.com/collections/pregnancy-loss/products/care-for-miscarriage-box

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Also if you know what the due date was supposed to be or when was the first time she heard the heart beat you can make this ring. I loved having it and I put the heartbeat date on it instead of the due date.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/844009383/

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My friend got me a silver necklace with the baby's birthstone which meant so much and maybe a journal because Journaling helped me get through the pain.

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Am I wrong if I secide to stop doing baths etc for my little ones. We have a 3 and 1 year old. I do all the baths wake up in ams cooking etc. I dont want them to be dirty but it's like I need a break and Im tired of doing it all by myself. He will come up and help after they are out the tub every now and then and that pisses me off. Im taking care of 2 littles one by myself makes no sense. I asked him to give them baths tonight he said I worked all day what did you do...ive had the children all day. We went to church he didn't go. We all know how little ones are.. but what should I do bcus it feels like I'm going crazy

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Partner works incredibly long hours, how much do they help out?

I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

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Heartbreak

After years of trying, months of back and fourth on the fate of our marriage, indecision, fights. The whole enchilada my husband and I are separating, divorcing. Whatever. I'm so goddamn heart broken. I feel like it's a death and I'm in mourning. We have a 3 year old son and currently and for the foreseeable we are going to coparent and live together. This makes things harder because neither one of us can really move on but it's how it is. He understands and he's trying to heal too. But I can't understand why now that things are over he can be kind. He's been more amazing in the last week since I ended things than ever. Why couldn't he do that when we were together for years I begged for change, we saw a counselor I tried everything and he just wouldn't. Now he seems to turn a switch and be able to just do it all. But it's too late. My heart aches. My body aches. Love sucks.

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Am I wrong ?

My daughter’s 1st birthday was Thursday and nobody wished her a happy birthday from her dads family but his mom watched his story. Should I put my foot down and set boundaries for them to accept accountability or should I just let them stay on that side for as long as they want and not worry about it?

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Tv good or bad

My 4 month old loves TV shows especially dancing fruits and baby TV is this a good thing or a bad thing at this age?

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Skinny baby!

My little boy is 14 months and I think he looks so skinny😢

He was a really good eater but he got tonsillitis twice in 2 weeks so he lost a lot of weight due to not eating 😣 he’s still got eating great, he doesn’t like milk at all, not a big fan of cheese or bread so I’m stuck on what to give him.

He’s been referred to a dietitian because his BMI is low, for his age and height his BMI should be at 15 and it’s at 14.6, I can’t help but worry😢
Anyone else on the same boat?

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