Home alone nighttime anxiety

I am home alone for 2nights this week. In a house. I have severe anxiety at time and constantly think someone will break in. I just find an empty house at night creepy aswell. (I love it in the day) .. I have always lived in flats as that helped my anxiety but ended up in a house. I have a 2y old who sleeps with Me. Can't even imagine my anxiety if he was in another room . I hate being like this but I am. I want my husband to change jobs to be home at night (he promised this before we got pregnant) but he just messes me about) . I have a lock on my bedroom door and I feel like I've "survived another night" when I wake up. I don't live in a high crime area. It's a Scottish town near mountains Any advice please? I hate being like this. I don't think cameras would help.

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4 days ago

Sounds like you have trauma from the previous break in , I think you should try to work through it maybe take self defence classes or lift some weights to help with the feeling of helplessness or therapy. I hope it can get better for you ❤️ I can’t even imagine having been through that

5 days ago

@Sam same here. I start to feel a bit less anxious when it gets after 3am. Then the next day I regret it cos I'm so tired. Luckily I'm a SAHM n sometimes nap with my toddler. But I still feel crap. My parents don't really get it either. My dad just harps on that most burglaries actually happen in the day. Someone did Try to get in my house as kid (we lived in a VERY bad area tho) .. thankfully the 2 metal door bolts top and bottom stopped them. I just hate being like this. I want to feel independent. I feel pathetic that I need my own mum to come with with me. If I did get burgled I don't even know what she could do. Yeah I completely agree. My husband is always up for a fight. I've only seen him lose his temper once (not with me) and it was petrifying. It was a bit of a turn off. But makes me feel safe with him at the same time x

5 days ago

@Aneta I agree. I've tried to explain it to him from all angles. We've been together 6.5 years now. But he just doesn't get it at all. He just thinks I'm odd, especially my bedroom door lock :/ x

5 days ago

I have meds that I usually take in the morning I will take at night when on my own! But I will still fight the sleep until I physically can’t anymore! No he wasn’t I was living with my ex at the time and like you I feel alot safer with partner here! I think some men see it as a “go on then try!” When it comes to things like this so can’t understand why we’d be scared if that makes sense?

5 days ago

You’re not a freak at all ! Even when my partner is in I ask almost every night if the doors are shut . And we live in a safe place and we have a big dog… maybe try and explain it more as from woman’s perspective as we are more vulnerable than men and he should be there to make you feel safe and protect you .