Sex after giving birth

I had a natural birth and an episiotomy, I was petrified of having sex! I kept worrying my stitches would come loose even though my midwife reassured me they wouldn't. I'll be honest it hurt like hell 😂 my boyfriend had to go so slow, I literally felt like I was losing my virginity again for the first time it's the only way I can describe it 😂. I'd advice lots of lube! After the first two or three times though it was fine xx

I had a natural vaginal birth, (no pain relief to my disappointment the hospital thought I wasn’t as far along as I actually was!) so I tore and grazed and had to have stitches but they were amazing and did an incredible job at stitching me back up. I thought I’d have to use a perineum bottle while I peed so I bought one and a rubber ring to sit on, but I didn’t need anything. 3 weeks later and I was back to having sex with my husband. He was very gentle and it was more sensual than rough but it was so nice knowing I was back to normal as I felt before giving birth as it was something I was concerned about like yourself. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. If they suggest an episiotomy then try not to worry. They will stitch you back up and properly and in a way that would be a cleaner cut and easier to make neat and get it right x

I had a 3rd degree, just got cleared to have sex but I bought a vibrator to practice with before actually engaging in sex lol

I think it depends on the type of tear you had .I only had a vaginal tear so it wasn't terrible for me. I think I was more scared if anything.

Take that back four/five months. Don’t wait… have your partner do massage and lots of four play. It doesn’t hurt just a different beginning.