Am I expecting too much - or being taken for granted

Do you think it’s a little much for the other half to swan off to the pub 4 times in just a week? Don’t get me wrong he is a great father, very active around household with chores; works full time bla bla bla….but I work three full days (he works five) of the days I’m in work I am up earlier than him usually as I will need to shower and dress before baby is awake and then see to her and take her to nursery. He leaves for work at 7:30 but if bubs sleeps in will wake at 7:15 and be out 7:30. I am soon to pick up work on a Sat which will mean I will work 26+ hours weekly. Bubs hasn’t been right last couple nights and though he may wake and get medicine or a bottle, I see to baby more often than him as baby settles more with me, this disrupts my sleep can affect my MH and make me a dragon 🐉 and then there is tension between us. He went to pub Monday after work - home at 8:30; Wednesday after work - home about 6:30 / 7 ; Friday after work and now today from 3, and home about 7 ish. Probs - who knows. Surely I am not over reacting by thinking this is a little excessive. And rightfully feel bitter as to where is my time away, or even recuperation from two awful nights sleep 🙄🙄🙄

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I would feel the same way you do.

Definitely too much imo. You're not overreacting

As wonderful as it is that he works full time and helps you and stuff but the pub 4 times a week is a bit much, you need time for you as well plus the pub is expensive, he could easily come home one night and say you know what I’ve got this, you go take some time, even if it’s just for a sleep, a bath or go out and see friends or family or whatever, that time is precious and a lot of mums don’t get it, we are 100% available for our babies 100% of the time but sometimes that involves taking us time to refresh ourselves before we get burnt out, I think you should have a conversation about it, maybe the pub 3 times a week and he gives you one but ideally it should be equal but sometimes beggars can’t be choosers x

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