Did anyone else loose their village?
I’m from a big family, I have 5 sisters, 4 older and 1 younger. When I got pregnant everyone was so excited. They all pushed to see the baby and I let them before I was even ready for visitors. They all said they would be there for me and now I have a 7 months old and the only person who has consistently kept in touch is my little sister.
My other sisters all have kids and for years I went round their houses almost every week to see them and their children but now that I have my little girl no one tries to see me or even make a phone call.
I’m so angry. I spent loads of time and money on all of them and their kids and I’m just so mad that they aren’t now doing the same for me.
It just hurts. I hurts me that my little girl doesn’t have the aunties and cousins that she deserves. I know I could probably ring them and arrange to meet up but I want them to make the effort for 5 months it was always me ringing them and going to see them and as soon as I stop it’s crickets.
I’m so hurt and angry all the time.
I didn’t lose a village per se, but my mother assured me that my little family would be there for me… that turned out to be a very untrue statement. They’re “help” only seems to include holding my son. I do the dishes the laundry the cleaning. I do the diaper changes, make the bottles, clean the messes. “Hey can you….” “I’ll hold him so you can.” All while I “should’ve been healing” and taking away any bonding I might’ve had. It got frustrating real fast. Where’s the village at? So not exactly the same situation, but the same anger.