Hi guys, first of all, sorry to put a downer on Mothers Day!
My little boy is 10 weeks old and I am struggling… my partner just doesn’t interact with him, won’t play with him, won’t change or feed him or help me out whatsoever. I have to literally argue with him to get him to do anything for our baby. I clean the house, do the washing, make the tea and look after our child, as soon as he comes home from work he just goes on the Xbox. He doesn’t even sleep in the bed anymore he sleeps downstairs so I am doing night feeds/wakings by myself too. If I ask for any help I just get the usual ‘I’ve been at work all day I’m tired’. Am I asking for too much??
To top it off he forgot it was Mothers Day and last minute got me a card as he felt bad that my mum got me one and saw it on the mantelpiece.
I feel as if I am falling out of love with him, I don’t want to hug or kiss him anymore but we’ve been together for 2 years now and I’m scared to be on my own again but at the same time I feel like a single mother anyway..
any advice ladies?? X
You need to have a really honest conversation with him. You are in the 4th trimester and its hard. Your relationship has changed. Your priorities have altered. You are sleep deprived, healing and adjusting to your new baby. Sit down with your partner and try (I know it can be hard!!) to have a very brutally honestly conversation about how you are both feeling. What you need and expect in your relationship and how you can both support each-other through this new stage in your relationship. Just be honest and hold your ground. I had to have some very hard conversations with my bf after my girl was born and tbh having her nearly broke us. At one point I really considered leaving him, just packing me and my girl up and leaving. But I fought hard with him and basically demanded that changes were made. I hope he is willing to adjust and support you and your little one more ❤️