18 hours ago

Is this disrespectful

My husband lies to me about things that don’t even matter. He’s not cheating but he lies about the littlest of things. So yesterday I knew he was lying to me about something so I acted like I didn’t know. The way he was acting like nothing was wrong and he was super sweet made me feel like I can’t trust him anymore. He gave up and told me because I kept pushing until he did. He apologized and I told him I’m going to bed. I texted him saying I couldn’t trust anything that comes out of his mouth anymore and how I don’t understand why he lies for no reason. He was up pretty late at night and on his phone. I woke up multiple times during the night because of our baby and I kept telling him to come to bed and asked if he saw my message. He said ok but I woke up this morning and he never responded or tried to talk to me about it. I’m so lost. Is this rude? Is this toxic?
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10 hours ago

I believe yes it’s disrespectful. Mine gets like this but then I’m the bad guy for pushing till I get the truth (I usually know it already I just wanna hear it from the horses mouth) but you definitely ought to have a serious talk with him about it.

16 hours ago

I don’t know how he would perceive this but have you ever suggested counseling to him? It’s hard not to personalize his behavior especially when you are around him and have to deal with him but to me it seems his fear of anger may be rooted in some thing else and it doesn’t really have anything to do with you. Especially since you’ve mentioned you’re not one to get extremely angry and you don’t understand why he would be afraid of your reaction. It seems he has some work to do and it’s up to you to decide if you want to stick around while he changes or not. Your mental and emotional well-being is what’s most important regardless whether you choose to stay with him and support him or leave. Or you can leave but continue to be in his life. 🤷🏽‍♀️ It all depends on what you can tolerate and what your needs are.

16 hours ago

My husband lies on accident 😂🤦🏼‍♀️ it took me awhile to figure out but I also know it’s 100% because of his childhood and how he was raised, he never intentionally lies to me or about important things. I have figured out his tells and know it’s not about me. We always talk about it when I catch him in a lie but I am never mad or blaming.

17 hours ago

@AmyRuth he told me a while ago that he’s never seen me extremely angry so he’s scared one day I’m just going to blow up😐. I feel like that’s just another excuse because I do get mad but I usually like to think before I speak so I don’t understand why he would be scared of my reaction

18 hours ago

Also some men lie because they’re scared off your reaction. Tell him he can always be honest and you won’t be mad. For example if he forgot something you asked him to do. Just tell the truth you won’t be mad

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