My partner doesn’t find me sexually attractive

I’m pregnant and since 30 weeks of pregnancy I’ve found it really hard to try and get my partner to sleep with me! He’s started to struggle getting it up! and is adamant it’s not because I’m pregnant, he’s admitted he’s been watching alot of porn lately which has “messed him up!” I ask him to stop watching it so we can get back to it! He agreed only he hasn’t stopped and it’s getting worse he really can’t get it up for me and today he broke down telling me he’s sorry and he’s not sure what’s going on! I’ve never felt so down in my life because I’m so in love with him and he’s amazing with everything else in the relationship! I’m just not sure what more to do?

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last week

I had this discussion with my partner. He just doesn't feel right doing it. He was a massively sexual person before and is now the complete opposite. Hes said he still finds me attractive but at the moment in a different protective motherly way. It's a known thing men around pregnant women have a decreased sex drive due to their own hormone changes. With my other half we just spoke about it and had to just accept it. I'm sure he watches porn but honestly it doesn't bother me. If I didn't want to have sex and he did then I would expect him to understand me, so it's the same the other way around.x

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Mine said no sex , "don't want to poc the baby "🤣 he didn't feel right to have sex when he can feel the baby 😅 I get it.

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He has porn addiction and needs to get help. It’s got nothing to do with his level of attraction for you, it’s just that he has become desensitised to sexual stimulus because each time he watches porn he’s upped the level of sexual fantasy/visual stimulation he needs to get an erection. There is lots of online support and he should definitely explore this. In the meantime, I know it’s really really hard but try and not take this personally. Is he going through a tough time at the moment? Cause him watching excessive porn could coincide with feeling low in general and needing to distract himself from other pressing issues. If this is the case, is there any merit in seeing his GP as well?

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So we have 3 things here. He can't get it up Porn And you think it's because he doesn't find you attractive because of it/or the porn Baring in mind, mental health, stress, concerns can all cause ED it may actually be nothing to do with the porn or you. Hes obviously got upset/embarrassed about it and you're making it a you problem when I think its needs to be openly discussed. Could it be that he doesn't want to have sex while your pregnant and he's trying to protect your feelings....its quite common for men to get weirded out. Could be why he's watching porn - just to get off. It may not be because he's more attracted to what he's watching.

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Some men don’t find pregnant women sexually attractive . * even if it is their own woman. After pregnancy if he stops porn you will be fine