Losing myself and bond with baby

I feel I don't know who I'm supposed to be anymore. Mothers Day morning was lovely. But the rest of the day has been a very typical day, with me doing everything in the house, doing all LO feeds, and a lack of support from my partner. He always seems to put on a "perfect dad" show when we visit his parents, LO has done her first big giggle today at his parents, and I missed it 😩 (partner was playing with her outside and I was sat inside) When we got home, I knew she needed a nap, *super dad to the rescue. He started playing with her, and she giggled so much at him, and when I had LO after, not even a smile, she just started crying instantly. I feel like an absolute useless mum lately. Today just tipped me over the edge 😭 Is it normal for dads to get all the smiles and laughs 🥺

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3 days ago

I was feeling this feeling at one point, I’m sure every mother feels lost with who they are at some point, but it surely does pass that feeling doesn’t stay forever, during having this feeling at one point I just completely broke down into tears and the next day I just woke up feeling like a brand new mum, it gets better you can pull through this, going for walks everyday surely does help, a mother and baby bond definitely is unbeatable although she’s laughing with him I’m sure she feels safest with you, you’ll get through this mama🫶🏻

3 days ago

When you have these feelings of helplessness , just take yourself and daughter for a nice walk if possible. Get out of the house and tap into your calm self that knows her baby and that no matter what the partner does or doesn’t , or how many times the baby smiles at him or not , the mother and baby bond is indestructible . And remind yourself that you brought a life on this planet and that you carried her for 9 months- just this alone puts you in a good place. Wasting any energy you’ve left on focusing on things you cannot control , will only turn a great mother into something else , and I’m sure you don’t want that . I’m so sure that if your baby could speak , she would tell you how much she loves you and how much you mean to her. Sending biiiig hugs your way , lady!!