Why is my husband following half naked women on tiktok?!

Communication is key! Set boundaries. For some reason guys seem to think that social media is not real life… but that is just an excuse. Explain that you do not like it and will not have it. You don’t follow men like that, so he should not follow woman like that. It’s disrespectful if it makes you feel uncomfortable. Some woman don’t care, but I am with you on this. Everyone is different and your partner should respect you and your feelings. I spoke to my partner about following bikini models (and worse) and he understood how it effects me, when all he sees is these woman on his feed every time he clicks on. False sense of beauty and standard for woman. (Men are so stupid they don’t even realise these pics are highly edited) There is no need for it, other than to PERV. He unfollowed all of the half naked “Insta” models that day x

I ask to go through the phone because the reaction to that is very telling

Umm no you just clearly and firmly state your boundaries. Why sneak around? You should communicate what you are ok with and not. Then stand by your conviction. It's all about what you allow. And men are not stupid! Stop this. That's the kind of thinking that excuses people from being held accountable. And what does that say about women who are with stupid men? Social media has gotten so far out there, it's an epidemic. 😔

I totally agree on communicating your concerns. Just make known about your discomfort about this and address the root of the problem. Do you want his attention on you? Do you have insecurities? Do you think it’s disrespectful? And for him… Does he have self-control? Does he desire those body types? Does he realize it’s making you feel slighted? There’s a lot to unpack privately between the two of you. So don’t be afraid of it and if there’s mutual respect in the relationship, you guys will talk seriously about why this makes you feel a certain way and what the next steps are in making you both happy.

Depends on the context...is he just following them in which case its just like watching porn or pleasing himself, if hes messaged them.or engaging with them then step right in. Im pretty vocal and straight forward, a what the fuck do you think you're doing does the trick I've found in the past. Makes them realise you won't tolerate it and they've fucked up big time.

Everyone’s relationship is different and we all have different boundaries. I simply told my husband some of his actions made me feel jealous and triggered my insecurities and why. I tried to explain in a way that was not accusing, merely educating him in what was going on in my brain. In our case my husband didn’t realize how much it bothered me. We now have and open phone policy and at any point either one of us can look through each others phone. Neither of us have TikTok, but I have asked him to unfollow a couple women on instagram

Me personally what I do is when I’m on my husband phone goes to his tik tok and unlike those video there is rarely any of them then it switch his fyp pages and un follow those people then it won’t pop up lol i will also like video so it’s altera his fyp like building videos construction videos lol I don’t know if he knows or not but it works for me but we are open we sit with each other and scroll on tik tok together where it’s his phone or mine.

I feel like I agree with you 100% on that, and I will totally bring it up with him.

State boundaries out of respect.

I would randomly go through his phone first and then bring up the fact that him following half naked girls on tik tok makes you uncomfortable. I had the same problem and when I went through his phone I found out he was texting girls and getting nudes etc.

Also he should respect your boundaries and what makes you uncomfortable…but also be specific with it don’t just say girls on tik tok say in general you think it’s disrespectful and it makes you feel uncomfortable…

It’s not unusual for guys to follow girls - they are a visual species. It doesn’t mean he’s cheating on you. Don’t break his trust (unless you REALLY feel like it’s necessary) and go though his phone. Speak to him first and go from there. Wouldn’t you want him to ask you something first that may be easily resolved, before he goes behind your back and snoops? Good luck x

I just follow sexy looking men instead lol he has a problem with it... Oh well.

Because it's pretty difficult to avoid, I'm guessing. Could be because he's a human and we all like to look at things we find attractive. 99% chance it doesnt have any say about your relationship or how committed and loving he is to you 🤷‍♀️ And I would suggest you just ask him directly. Howd you find out about it, did he send you a video or something? Then you could say something like "hey, this girl you follow is half naked. that makes me feel uncomfortable. i understand you might be following her because she's funny? but for our relationship, would you mind if we discuss where to draw the line?"

Is it avoidable? Honest question too cuz my little sister does that TikTok shit and I swear majority of those girls are half naked, naked whatever. Hell she makes all her videos half naked just for followers 😆 idk this app is the extent of my social media but from what she’s shown me on her phone it appears it’s the way most of the app just is (no hate here towards TikTok users ladies just a perspective, do your thang)