Correct her when she is wrong? Pull her to the side and speak to her behavior and if she doesnāt start doing better in respecting you as her grandchildren mother then she can expect to see less of them
If you were already warned about her then itās a what did you expect situation. Sheās not going to change so your gonna have to take her with a pinch of salt and not let her bother you
Iāve had stood firm over text for the last two weeks in letting her know I will talk and come around when ready. Dad agrees and is just as upset about the party but he does not know any different than her so has the āthatās just who she is, youāre wasting your timeā attitude about me addressing it. We plan on going over tomorrow so I can get it over this but hopefully she is receptive to my concerns. A control freak is no match for my bullhead and firm expectations for my child. I just hate that this has to happen at all
I'm sorry but tell her exactly how you feel and don't hold back. It's a respectful but direct way to get her to understand you won't tolerate it anymore. You also need to get with dad to set strict and firm boundaries! She sounds like a piece of work!
Lay down the law. No hiding. Tell her how it is. She can either respect your boundaries and apologize for her disrespect or she isnāt allowed around your baby. Donāt let her think she can bulldoze you, donāt let her think this will blow over. Hold her accountable.
I would approach it directly since thatās your style and she seems to be an active and from what it sounds like good grandma aside from the passiveness towards u. Put ur foot down as ur childās mother and creat boundaries now, also thank her for what sheās done and let her know that itās important ur daughter has her family in her life and sees those healthy dynamics