She left her ten year old alone for 12 hours
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Why was the child at home?
When they divorced they decided to have their daughter live with her mom as she’s closer to her mom. It wasn’t “a choice” they divorced and he met me. We got married and moved to Florida and had a baby. She comes to visit us when she’s off of school sometimes. She has family in New York and New Jersey. She is allowed to bring her daughter to work too she’s done several times. It doesn’t make sense to leave her home alone.
@Christina she’s on break this week apparently.
Look at state laws. In Nevada I can technically leave my 5 yr old home. As long as they can make food or have food, are able to call 911 in an emergency then they say it’s fine. Would I no but according to law I can. I freak out anytime I leave them home for just a couple of hours before school and they are 12 & 11 yrs old. 🤣🤣
@Katie New Jersey law doesn’t state a specific age. I’m just worried because of how long she was home alone if it would be consider neglect. We are Muslim and it’s Ramadan so she’s fasting. No eating and making food. That’s wild what the law says in Nevada. Wow 😯
He got a divorce and then moved out of state as if he didn’t have a child that he needed to take care of and chose to create a family with you. If y’all are not there to help her as a single mother there are things that we may not want to do but out of survival we have to
So if it doesn’t say a specific law then I think it’s the same as nevada. As long as she has means for contacting authorities in an emergency then unfortunately not much you can do. I looked into it because my ex left our kids home alone when one was 5yrs old and vomiting and the other was 6, I was not happy but my attorney said that since they had a phone and food they were ok. 😪
Jobs are not understanding when it comes to mothers. If she then loses her job and has no way to pay bills she’ll be out on the streets. Many mothers train their kids to not open doors, they call and check on them regularly and have plans in place so things will be safe. It’s not ideal but neither is her father moving to a whole other state and support a new wife and child
And you saying a whole state away? How do you possibly know that?
Sounds like y’all already chose to demonize this woman who is a single mother doing what she needs to do to survive
@Lexi they used to live in New York and she moved out of state to New Jersey with her. What’s the difference? Apparently doing it alone is not a problem for her. She has a lot of family in New York. Not much in New Jersey. Did he have a child with me. Yes but that doesn’t mean she’s not a part of our family. He got a divorce when she was 3 and married me when she was 7. And on top of all of this. She will not disclose where in New Jersey she’s living with her daughter. She refuses to tell my husband where they live and the court thinks she lives at her old address in New York.
@Lexi how do I know it’s a state away? Because they live New Jersey and her mom works in the Bronx. New York City. Is that the same state??? No. It’s not.
@Lexi I am not a single mom. So I don’t know how hard it is to be a single mom. But I do do solo parent. My husband works weeks on the road and I’m alone with my 3 month old. I would never do what this woman did. If I had to work to pay my bills that baby. You’re coming to work with me. Or I’m finding someone I trust to watch you.
@Lexi her job literally doesn’t care. They even like when her daughter comes to work with her!!! She’s done it before. Last spring break the whole week she went with her mom to work. She works in an office.
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@Sarah THANK YOU. Everyone up here attacking my husband because we moved to Florida after we got married. There is not set in stone custody agreement now. I wish there was.
@Katie wow I hope everyone was okay.
@Lexi Agree! She didn’t break any laws and this is clearly a rare occurrence. If the husband chose to move away from his daughter he doesn’t have the luxury of telling his ex how to parent.
@Sarah I read the same thing you are reading online and I’m going to share that info with my husband for insight. Yeah a custody agreement was close to being finalized but then she wouldn’t tell us where she lives in New Jersey which makes this whole situation even more frustrating. What if something happened to her mom at work? We don’t know where they live and I don’t think that’s fair or right. Being a single parents is hard and deserves recognition and praise. But as you said. Not illegal just crap parenting. I know this girl. She gets scared when she’s alone. She hates being alone. She can’t even fall asleep on her own sometimes. She’s get scared when she’s in the dark too. She’s innocent. Which is probably why I’m so mad at this whole situation.
You’re not there everyday there was a teachers strike and I was allowed to bring my son to work but if I do it everyday it will be a problem. You can’t possibly know All the details of this woman’s life and you’re not around everyday let alone in the same state. You and your husband already have it in your minds to demonize her so it’s nothing we can say to change your mind or get you to be honest and realistic with yourselves 🤦🏾♀️
I’m absolutely sure 💯 that it says that she has to notify the court within 15 days after moving of her new address. So if she’s not giving it to you and the daughter can’t recite it to you then I’d definitely be getting the address some how.
@Sarah he’s definitely allowed to get married and have another child but then to move to another state and abandon his other child? But the mom is a crappy parent according to “Ms. Incognito” 😳 y’all really need to give this woman some grace considering the circumstances
@Lexi I’m not calling her a crap parent. She’s a good parent. I’m calling the decision today she made for her daughter was crap.
@Lexi so you’re telling me every divorced parent can’t leave the state their child lives in? They have to stay? Is there no planes for people to visit. He was in New Jersey for an hour once and he met with her. Does he want to be away from his daughter? No. He hates it actually. But moving to Florida allowed him to have a way better job to provide better for the whole family. We tell her mom when she’s off of school she’s welcome at her dads house the whole time. Her mom has yet to send her daughters school calendar so we know when she’s off and can plan to have her with us. She can get help. She doesn’t want it.
I would find the school calendar online and find out when the daughter is off of school and suggest that the daughter can come visit at those times.
@Sarah girl goodbye if they have such a problem with it maybe her father should move back and actually help with his child instead of him and his wife looking down their nose regarding the survival decisions of a single mother because the fact is if her father was active and present and not over 1,000 miles away mom would have more of a support system where she wouldn’t have to do something so drastic like prepare her child to stay home alone for that long. You’re saying I’m being judgmental but Ms. Incognito came on here looking for other peoples opinions and I stated mine if all you want is validation and hugs don’t ask for opinions because they’re just like arseholes. Everybody has one
What was rude about my comment @Sarah 😂😂😂😭
@Christina yeah she won’t even say what school she goes to. 🫠
@Lexi you’ve stated your opinion and it’s not helpful. Thank you for your opinion. Kindly stop
It sounds like your husband needs to get a lawyer and gets things straightened out with custody and figure out where his daughter even lives.
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@Christina I agree. He’s working on that. This whole situation is a mess.
Truthfully he abandoned his child! So to sit here and pass judgment on a single mom that YOUR HUSBAND left 1,000 plus miles to be away from his daughter is insane. She’s 10, at that age most kids have phones, labtops, know how to cook, clean and keep their selfs occupied for a day. You keep saying her job is ok with it, but what if now they aren’t anymore, or what if she switched positions? If your husband was the least bit concerned about his child he wouldn’t moved so far away. Also in a divorce, you literally get to come up with a visitation schedule and it has to be agreed uponed, so that means he didn’t even attempt to get any sort of custody agreement to be in his child’s life.
@Sierra bingo!
I don’t think it’s that bad. Either way it seems like your husband has made the choice to live with your child and not his daughter. That choice comes with the consequence of not making child rearing decisions for his daughter. It seems like her mom is doing her best, raising a kid alone while her child’s father is raising a baby in another state.