Cheating

get rid!

He has admitted to having an addiction, and he said he doesn't even get anything out of it he just likes to look at it.

Only fans wouldn’t bother me it’s basically just porn and who doesn’t watch porn… but the sexual messages to his ex! Nah girl I wouldn’t be okay with that! I would be done with him at that point! For me if I feel the need to go through my partners phone… there’s a problem. If you need to chat message me! I’m so sorry you have to go through this 🥰

Yeah I second the ladies above, get rid of him and the fact his mother seems like a narcissist do you really want her being a grandmother to your unborn child? Things won’t get better if she’s acting like that right now. Honestly surround yourself with your own family if they’re close with you and focus on yourself and the little one and work out if you can co parent with your boyfriend. Nip it in the bud now rather than later

Sounds like his mom is only getting part of the story. I would go in his phone, take screen shots of the crap he’s looking at and then send it to his mom from his phone and see if she still feels that way. I’m petty when it comes to cheating though 😂

@Patty only fans is nothing like porn, there hundreds of free porn sites but only fans you subscribe to most and even still chat them up and they money could be used to save up for their little one or even date nights…

Just as bad as the mom !

I'm so sorry you're going through this. That is very painful. I'm not gonna say yall can never be together because he could get help. But right now that just sounds like a bunch of stress and pain which you don't need or deserve while pregnant or otherwise. I say leave until he gets honest and gets help. Porn is not okay and neither is cheating. And in my opinion it shouldn't matter if you look in his phone if he has nothing to hide.

I have sent her screenshots, and she says that's not like him, and she doesn't understand what is going on. And then she tells me that threatening to leave him is not giving him the stability he needs to grow.

You can't raise or change a man

It's not your responsibility. It was hers

Girl go to God. That's the best place for you. Read Isaiah 54 and ask God to show you what to do. He did it for me.

Leave!

That’s fucking hilarious how his mother expects you to raise HER son. Like nah that’s a red flag waving right in your face love.

That mother of his will always continue to choose “his side “ good or the bad it don’t matter what you say girl , I learned the hard way and I just wanna save you the pain of it all cause there’s not begging that mom he’s in the wrong cause she will always put his feelings before yours pregnant or not .

He is not the man for you or your future baby, I wouldn’t want that around my baby. Move on and in time a new person will come who can show you real love. My ex had a big sex addiction and once I went thru his phone I actually caught him on websites where he would pay women to come have sex with him. While I was at home and he had no desire to be with me. It was disgusting. Now I’m married to an amazing loving man and pregnant with our first baby, I’m also a step mom to his two kids. Life works in mysterious ways. The universe has just showed you what love isn’t supposed to feel like, now soon, you will get to experience real true love. You’ve got this babe.

Cheating is cheating. It’s all about personal boundaries. I personally don’t like porn in a relationship, it desensitizes people and sets unrealistic expectations. Using only fans and paying to see people rather than the person I love in front of me is whole new level of no for me. I had this issue with my now fiancé in the beginning of our relationship, I told him it made me uncomfortable and as if I am not enough and so he stopped because he respected that boundary. For me it’s respect, if they can’t respect that boundary then you shouldn’t be with them. The mother will choose his side, you felt he was doing something wrong and he was. You are not in the wrong. You deserve better.

Leave him.

You’ve already said what you would do. You have to stick to it. You’re not comfortable with and now he knows you’ll stay . I definitely don’t advise marriage .

His mom can fuck off

@Patty um I don't and my husband doesn't need to either

@Rayzie exactly

Girl we all know his phone didn't get hacks. Men try to use that excuse all the time. It literally doesn't work. It's up to you if you leave but it sounds like he isn't gonna stop doing it.