Sexual aversion after birth

Does/did anyone else’s sex drive drop after giving birth to your babies? Ever since giving birth I feel like I’ve completely lost my desire to be intimate with my boyfriend. I’m now 3 months pp and I thought by now I would be back into it but just the thought of it still makes me cringe. I don’t know what to do or how to fix it. It’s starting to affect our relationship because he doesn’t understand why I don’t want it like I used to. I’m still attracted to him though and I really want to have that desire again. Any advice?

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I read that it can be like this up to 18 months. It's due to a number of factors like hormonal changes and stress and lack of sleep. Mine still hasn't returned properly after 11m 😥. Just know you're not alone x

Well mind drop because my husband shows no interest in having sex😂🫣

Yes this is very common, you’re not alone. One reason being, biologically we are not meant to be procreating so soon after having a baby. Our job is to heal (which takes a full year for the body) and to care for the baby. Our hormones are still fluctuating, if you’re nursing or pumping, you have higher estrogen which decreases your libido and natural lubrication. Connecting with each other in other ways besides sex at first will help with reconnecting emotionally. Then add in the physical elements. Take time to go on a date, or after baby is asleep stay up and just talk for an hour, bo phones, no tv, just cuddle and talk. Make out! Remember how exciting that was when you first started dating, kissing for at least 7 seconds helps to release oxytocin which is the connection hormone. I have a free download that goes over all of this if you’d like to grab it. https://brianna-carey.square.site/4stepguide

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