I hate going out with my toddler

I’m sorry you’re finding it incredibly hard at the moment. This age very hard but it sounds like age appropriate behaviour to me. She will grow out of it. Have you looked into coping mechanisms for yourself? Ways to control your anger? I try to a second before reacting and try to be firm but kind.

Hey, this sounds very relatable in regards to my daughter too. From the age of 3 months old, she won't just sit in a highchair etc without moaning her absolute head off, whereas I'm forever seeing all my friends babies not like that at all. They sit there all quiet etc, but that has never been her. I did question whether it's something I'm doing wrong, however there's nothing I'm doing wrong, it's just her own quirky personality. I always knew she'd be different 😅 Don't be so hard on yourself❤️ I get very frustrated at her too, because I've never met a kid like her 🙄 She will kick off if she's ever restricted in any form of way, so for instance the car seat, she hates it. Tried putting her in a trolley the other day and she kicked the fuck off again 😩 Absolute nightmare and so embarrassing, but I'm forever being told it's just a phase. So, just got to see this out ❤️ At the mo I prefer to keep it behind closed doors 'cause it's draining as hell, but I know soon enough once she's communicating properly etc

Things will be so much easier xx

Completely feel you with this, it’s like we can’t do anything ever without it being a constant battle but I know it’s a phase and it will pass eventually. It’s so hard though isn’t it, Lily will slap me, bite me, scratch me etc whilst screaming kicking and throwing herself around it’s draining. Like Jess said above maybe some play groups that are just free play might be a bit better for now instead of the classes x

My little boy is exactly the same and I can so relate to everything @Hayley had just said! He's been hard work since birth, bless him. I had such a terrible experience with him yesterday food shopping and swore I'm never going to take him out in public ever again 😅 I'm due again in September and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope, even if the next one is easier as I'll still have my toddler 🙈 You are not alone though, although I know from personal experience that it soooo often seems like it! X x

Thank you everyone. I really needed to hear all these things. I will definitely try some free play things, they sound like a great idea. I hope it works. She’s just really funny with other children when we go out too, if she’s on the slide at the park and another child comes to play on it too, she won’t go near them until they’re off it. She’ll point and whine and if they get too close she’ll cry her eyes out. As far as I know she’s fine at nursery with the other children but it’s such hard work trying to explain that other children are playing too! Thank you for all your support. I’d love to have a sibling for her, but I can’t cope with the one I have already 😭😭

I thought it was just me! I burst out crying and left early when we were out on Tuesday due to his behaviour xx

@Lisa funny you say that. People warning me saying my baby due in 4 weeks may be worse than my daughter, but I'm sorry, no one can be as bad as her 😂 xx

@Hayley oh yes, I get 'ooo you just wait til the second one, they're always worse' and I'm like well if that really is true then you'll find me in a mental institution somewhere! 😅 This next one NEEDS to be a nice, chilled out baby 🙏 x x

Have you tried babywearing? Makes the carrying part a bit easier. Could have her on your back etc x

Another vote for a back carrier! Definitely a life saver for little ones who want to be carried and don't like the buggy any more. We used our ergobaby a lot for both our little ones for this age.

@Lisa how true is that 😂😂😂 Makes me feel so much better knowing there are kids just like her 😅 All the best with your pregnancy ❤️ xx

It's a phase, hopefully! My boy was not like this - he did whine in a buggy granted but if he was allowed out he would walk nicely on reins and would be an okay experience. My daughter has been horrific and will whinge/cry/scream in a buggy but just runs off if she's out or on reins will just pull or sit on the floor and stamp about and shout no Every outing is stressful although I still do it so we go out as a family/ have other kids. I couldn't stay at home all day as I would go crazy although granted it is easier. I went out today to look round town and stupidly thought I could enjoy a coffee and I was wrong and left early because she decided to yell and scream and it was embarrassing. You are definitely not on your own!

@Lisa I always say if my second was my first she would probably be an only child 🤣 second child + girl so double whammy so I'm told! She is absolutely adorable though so always get home where she decides she's fine and I'm like awww what a little sweetheart KIDS

Bless you. I’m sure it’s just a phase. Sending you love and hugs, hopefully you’ll can get some you time to be able to have a break x

@Hayley my baby is exactly like this. He can’t stay still for even half a second and is getting so strong and heavy for me to deal with when he’s kicking off or demanding to be carried. It’s so frustrating. I’m exhausted 2 hours after waking up 😣

Can definitely relate, my son wants to walk every time we go out so getting anywhere takes FOREVER. Then he hits a point where he’s constantly saying “up” and I have to carry him, it’s so hard trying to carry his weight along with trying to push his pram. If all else fails I put him in the pram he usually has a bit of a meltdown so I give him some snacks which will usually keep him quiet for a while (raisin boxes are my go to). But I feel your pain, going anywhere is a nightmare

@Hayley you too! Here's to hoping our next ones are the polar opposite 🤞😅 x x

Have you ever tried a back carrier- my daughter is the same but the back carrier has been a lifesaver