Husband ignores my texts for hours

I’m so upset so I figured I might just want to hear everyone else’s opinion to see if I’m just over sensitive. My husband has been working night shift and he has been super busy with work to where he has to go in several hours early. Some days he worked about 13 to 16 hour shifts and he hasn’t had a day off going on 10 days now. His phone keeps going off with WhatsApp messages and regular text messages from his work. He usually writes his coworkers back asap. Yesterday, he was at work and it was kind of slow for the first few hours for him so I texted him. He didn’t text back for almost 2 hrs but he was online on Facebook the whole time. I got kind of upset and wrote him on messenger that I texted him a while ago but looks like he must be super busy with Facebook…so he was responding he got carried away with looking at motorcycles on marketplace. I’m just hurt because I know if I would have been a work colleague he would have written me back right away…and since he has been gone so much I figured he would wanna know what my son and I are up to when he is working. We’ve also had some issues in the past with him not telling me stuff such as him giving a female coworker a ride and him not telling me but telling me everything else about that day. His excuse is that he thinks that I would get jealous, which isn’t true. I would have been fine if he would have told me but I found out through seeing a WhatsApp message on his phone, which made me worried why he wouldn’t tell me about that because he is very talkative. So within a few minutes of me finding that out he first said he didn’t think it was a big deal and then switched it to “oh I just didn’t want you to react a certain way.” When we first started dating I found out that he was talking to an ex and she sent him boob pictures, I almost left him but ended up forgiving him. Last year I found him following over 20 accounts on Twitter that were all porn. I confronted him about it, because they kind of looked like personal accounts but he assured me there wasn’t any messaging going on between them. I keep having the feeling that something isn’t right but he doesn’t act distant when he is at home and I don’t know why my gut feeling is telling me that he is up to something.
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How sure are you that those are conversations with actual coworkers and that he is actually going to work when he says he is, have you seen something showing his hours?

@Marissa 🫶 🇺🇸 75% sure it’s with coworkers…most of the time I see a name pop up of his male coworkers but for some reason he doesn’t save the numbers of his female coworkers so it’s just a number

He only save the number of male coworkers, that's really weird. I feel like the whole situation is sketchy..

@Marissa 🫶 🇺🇸 I have a weird feeling but I have no proof. If he does have anything going on then it must be all on his phone because I cannot find anything otherwise

@Marissa 🫶 🇺🇸 we have the find my phone thing since we both have iPhones and his phone shows at work

You need to talk to him.

@Michi i did talk to him about it and we end up having a good conversation but it’s like he just knows to say all the right things but then turns around and does something new again

He may be hiding someone number under a male name

@Katie thank you I’ll check them next

I was the other woman (unknowingly) after it ended he told me he had my number under his male mate name so his misses wouldn't know.

@Katie I’m sorry you had to go through that 😞

I totally get you trust me on that. You just not getting through and it's the gaslighting rubbish.

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