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@Skye yeah I’ve contemplated quitting too but then when I am at my worst it’s the only thing able to bring me out of my depression. Even with just my antidepressant I am on a rollercoaster. It’s not even that she’s doing anything wrong. She’s 2. I shouldn’t get so mad but I do. I feel honestly like someone else could do this better.
@Kamaria Nobody knows her better than you. Parenting is the hardest job ever and nobody knows what they’re doing or even how to do it “right”. Some days we feel like the worst moms ever but our kids still love us anyways. From what you say it sounds like you’re doing everything you possibly could to be the best mother you can for her. That’s all we can do.
@Skye oof it’s hard to hear because I think I’m seeking perfection maybe as a result of my mothers own failures! Ugh but anyways thank you. I really appreciate you💕
I really don’t think bad mums really ever worry about being bad mums. I think if your even asking the question it means you are doing a better job than you think. Being a mum is hard. Everyday I tell myself just breathe he won’t be little forever but in reality and in the moment it doesn’t help. Keep doing what your doing and try not to be so hard on yourself. ♥️
I never thought that him being two would be any different than before. But it is! At this stage they develop character and go through learning to express themselves. He cries more than he ever did, he throws tantrums, he is refusing sleep (night time and nap time.) he doesn’t want to eat what he is offered but commands something different. So you find yourself losing patience… at the end of the day you need to remind yourself (as in myself) that he is only going through milestones and learning this thing called life. It is hard, challenging, difficult. We are so quick to react to their behavior but sometimes we need to just be there to assure them that it is okay (it is hard if we haven’t learned to manage our own emotions and feelings ourselves… I am constantly reminding myself that I am the bigger person, the mother, the nurturer… n that he is only two.) Hang in there and push away that voice that tells you that you are a bad mom. There isn’t on how to be a good mom manual. 💛💛
You are enough and all that she needs Momma 💛💛💛
This hit so close to home for me. I hate myself and shame myself because I have no patience I yell about the same stuff I'm so easily aggravated I feel like nothing I do as a mom is right or good enough. my husband is gone 14 to 16 hours a day and I'm always crying and alone. I cry just as much as my son. But your not any of those things your a wonderful mother who feels alone and exhausted. If you were a failure you wouldnt care that you feel that way. Hell if you were a failure he wouldnt be with you he would be in dfacs. I'm here if you ever need to talk and I understand because I'm in your shoes to
My daughter has been really difficult lately too. Someone told me if you do things right 60% of the time you’re doing a good job. One thing about smoking weed to regulate your emotions, is that it can make things worse. It gives you that feel good boost and then you crash. Probably not what you want to hear but since I’ve quit smoking weed I’m a lot more patient. But I still yell at her almost daily for the same things you’re talking about, I’m just able to get back to having fun a lot quicker than I used to.