Sex drive

I know what u mean my drive is gone completely I feel terrible as my partner wants but I just can’t!

I’m post menopause and I still find it repulsive to have my husband near me 😌

Thankyou for sharing with me ladies sometimes it good to know we’re not alone in feeling like this.

I totally agree Cindy! It can be a very lonely place thinking it’s just you😌 I feel sorry for my husband but we’ve tried and it’s just too painful and uncomfortable that it’s not enjoyable for me xx

Exactly the same happened to me. You’re lucky you have an understanding other half, unfortunately it split us up. I am post menopausal on HRT, 49 and lost my libido completely but there was little understanding from my other half so said he felt unloved and that was the end 😏.

Oh sally I’m so sorry 😌 , you certainly need a partner who is fully understanding🙏. The things us women have to go through, it’s so unkind🥲 We need to support and love each other as it’s a time when we so need it as men will never truely understand! I said to my friend we should set up a women’s commune for menopausal women, where we can all live together and give each other thr support and love we need, because we all understand how it feels xx

Sounds like a great idea 🤣🤣. I hope for everyone else’s sake that their men understand what they are going through. It came at a time when I lost everything so I am having to start again from the bottom. He blames everything on me saying I didn’t love him enough. I did of course but just couldn’t express it as I used to. I will rebuild my life and be a stronger person for it.

Ugh! I’m glad I read this this morning as my hubby and I are going through EXACTLY the same!! For the last 2 years I’ve been so disinterested in sex. We started out 26 years ago ALL ABOUT THE SEX!! Lol but we like each other too, so everything was great! But 2 years ago (approx) I changed, sex became uncomfortable and painful and it seemed to be all my fault. We’re still struggling but I’m determined to make this work! (We have two pre-teens with individually special needs) I’m not doing teen years on my own🤨🧐Anyway, it is comforting to know we aren’t the only ones.

It’s such a shame that some other half’s don’t want to understand and support at the end of the day it’s out of our hands. At least we can find support here. I personally felt completely unprepared for this phase of my life. I believe it’s time we were all more open to it, puberty was spoken about but maybe that’s cause men go through that too! It’s like child birth I was under the impression it hurts till you have the child, I had no idea on my first child my womb would be agony afterwards contracting back 🤣🤣 I was unprepared. Women good the gift that just keeps giving 🤦🏻‍♀️ xxx I love the commune idea we could become Amazonian women to support and grow as a tribe. X

Ahh bless you Sally! You certainly will be a stronger lady, you’ve got this! We’ve all got this 💪! We are all here to support each other which is amazing ❤️ We all get it, and on a platform where we are able to be totally open and Frank which is so liberating for many of us! For so long I thought it was just me and everyone else was merrily having great sex, how wrong was I! Let’s uplift and give each other so much love on here, as we are all struggling in some way xx

My partner doesn’t put pressure on me but I’m sure he wants more from me but it’s uncomfortable and can be painful can any one here tell me if the hrt helps at all please I’m only 40 and would like to at least try and get my libido going again I’ve tried everything else !! Xx

@Sally my husband is understanding but I do think men sometimes think it’s cause you don’t love or fancy them anymore and that you use other things as an excuse, not fully understanding what we are going through. I have to keep reminding him I do love and do fancy him still it’s me really that’s the issue of not wanting sex, nothing to do with him

At 46 the balance of my hormones gve me increased drive but by 50 I was the same. I am hoping to add testosterone gel to my HRT which I have heard works wonders. I have the blood test to do & if it’s low they will prescribe it. Having said that oestrogen worked to improve things at first, are you on HRT?

Yes I’m on HRT but not tried adding testosterone

@Tracey ha it’s strange. Like you my sex drive increased in my 40s, best it’s ever been as the kids are up and you have more time but as soon as I hit 50 it went 😫

I haven’t tried it yet but women I know that have are extremely pleased. They were hoping for energy too but both reported no help with that but much increased sex drive. I hope it works for me!

Imagine being in a same sex relationship and the sex drive goes for you and ramps up for your wife who’s also in the start of her peri stages… I’m in a living hell, I’ve got nothing but feeling repulsed. I’m on HRT and testosterone… zilch in the jiggy jiggy department even being on all that!

@Johanne this must be a very difficult time for you both. I hope you can find a common ground on which you can continue to bloom and grow your love.

Hello 😊 My libido upped and went, but now it's back 😀 Testosterone did the trick for me - it doesn't work for everyone and it takes a few months to feel its full effects but it sorted me right out 🙂 It's tricky to get on the NHS, but it can be done: I've helped loads of our M-brace The Change Menopause Support group members to do just that. I have a group here on Peanut, as well as one on FB, and you can download our Testosterone Handbook from either group (there's a small charge on Peanut, less than £1!). If anyone needs our Guide For Partners, that's a free download available from our factsheet library on our website, here; https://m-bracethechange.com/fact-sheets/ There are also factsheets there on this subject, and loads of others too... Hope that's all helpful 😊❤️

I'm the same. Though I've just started HRT and hoping things improve soon.

It’s gone, and I could care less. I had one and my spouse still cheated

I feel I'm getting there all kinds of changes in my body can do that to a person right?.. I really have to push myself to even dress nice put makeup on. When I do my husband shows me attention but no sex. He too is going through something Newly married and never thought this would happen so fast. Funny thought I heard that when your elderly your drive picks up. Nurses say they catch them having sex all the time in nursery homes.