Military wife, pregnant and dealing with military life anxiety

I’m in exactly the same situation sweet your not alone, I’m due in September and they want to send my other half away till a week before I’m due and then back out almost straight after baby too, please message me if you’d like to talk things through 💗

@Sacha Thank you lovely, I’ve sent you a message 💗

My partner has just returned from an exercise he left when our baby was four months and came back when he was six months.. admittedly, the army lifestyle is nerve racking, and I don’t think I understood the reality of it until having a baby. If you need anyone to talk to feel free to message me! I can completely understand anxieties of it all and it’s so hard when most people don’t understand xxx

I'm due new years eve so around same time...this is out 5th though so slightly different! I have spent a lot of time being on my own with the kids. When our middle baby was 11 months he deployed on tour, that was tough but tougher when he got back because she didn't really know who he was. I would say as difficult as it is, you really do need get yourself out there and find your people *I promise they do exist! Find local pre and post natal groups so you can connect with people going through similar experiences. The longer they serve the easier it gets....hubby is full service in 2026 and us basically an office b these days....🤣🤣 I can't see waves but my inbox is always open.

Hey lovely. I am currently 22 weeks and my partner is deployed. I am also serving and my anxiety has gone through the roof this time round! Hormones have a lot to answer for! I called my midwife the other day as I was struggling quite bad and am meeting her tomorrow so hopefully that helps. Not much help to you now, but in case you struggle whilst pregnant, you are not alone!

@Jade Thanks for commenting 💗✨ I really hope you’re coping ok. It’s so hard living away from family, especially when your partner is away for a long period of time. Thank you💗 I’ll definitely take you up on that xxx

@Lili This is the thing, I already know it’s a difficult lifestyle but I do really panic about when we have a child, mainly as I feel sad that he’ll miss out on quite a bit of our baby’s childhood. I just wish he could be here all the time. Thank you for commenting, it’s SO difficult trying to explain it all to family or friends as they just don’t understand, and the only answer I get is ‘you know what you signed up for’ … 🙄 which yes, I do, but I can still be sad about it 😂

@Adi Thank you so much for this comment, you’re a Wonder Woman dealing with 5 children on your own whenever your partner goes away 🦸🏼‍♀️ it’s sooooo difficult isn’t it when they go away when their young, that must’ve been so tough when she didn’t know who he was❤️‍🩹 This is the thing it’s been tricky socialising on camp as all the classes are very mother and baby friendly and at the time I didn’t have a child so felt very isolated. At least there’s options available to meet other mums, especially others that are going through the same thing. I just seriously need to overcome my social anxiety. Covid has well and truly ruined me. Thank you so so much for your comment💗

@mahayla Thank you for your comment 🥹💗 so sorry to hear your anxiety has been bad, it honestly sucks doesn’t it! I feel like I’m just panicking about absolutely everything and it’s driving me insane. That’s so good that your midwife is going to meet you, hopefully you feel a bit better after seeing her 💗 I honestly just wish anxiety didn’t exist. It seems to be taking over my life recently xx

He went away when I was pregnant for a couple of weeks and all I could do was send lots of pictures and videos so he didn’t miss too much. This time round I did the same and it was still a shock when he came back but I think all the pictures and videos helped a tonne ☺️ People just tell me to keep routine, do things for myself and make new friends at groups which isn’t easy at all and doesn’t exactly help 😅

Anxiety is a b###h! When mine kicks in I try to focus just one day at a time... set myself small goals. Even when I'm not feeling really anxious I pretty much live one week at a time. I plan things so it gives me something to focus and look forward to... be it a coffee with a friend, doing the food shop, just getting to the weekend! The weeks fly by when you set your mind that way. Atm I'm really anxious to get to the 12 week scan so I'm breaking that waiting time up...this weekend we're taking my mum to see lion king, Tuesday we have a Dr appointment for one kids, next weekend we're baby sitting my nephew... 3 things to focus on means next weekend is going be here before I know it. That's how I got through many a week when he was away and I guess its just worked for me and its now my life 🤣🤣 one week at a time!

RAF wife here 😊 My inbox is open if you ever want to talk. My husband was away for a year after my eldest was born, then for most of 2020-2022, and regularly goes away for 2-4 weeks. So I get it.

I’ve just had a baby 6 months ago and my husband has been away to wales for 2 weeks when he was 2 weeks old and then since January been to wales for 5 weeks and now in Germany for 7 weeks and then Estonia for 6 months in September. It is tough BUT I have found that your circle of friends/support where you are based changes and becomes so much better (plus I’ve found it easier to make friends as you have something in common to start the conversation) you are welcome to message me! Always around for a chat❤️

@Lili Youre amazing dealing with all of that whilst he was away. Bless you 💗 yeah I struggle so much to find groups round here! It feels very isolated

@Adi Anxiety is awful isn’t it. That’s a really good way of managing it! I struggle with motivation with mine, I plan things then my anxiety beats me. I’ve been trying SO hard to push myself and just force myself out recently as I don’t want the anxiety to win, I just want my old self back! I used to be so confident, now I’m just a shell of what I was it’s so irritating. I’ve booked an 8 week scan privately with window to the womb on the 17th June just to check over everything, I’ve been trying to keep myself super busy and take my mind off it because due to my PCOS I’ve got it in my head that something is going to be wrong with the baby… I just need to get to this scan to see if everything is ok ✨xxx

@Katie That must’ve been tough! 💗 thank you for commenting. I’ll definitely send you a message, thank you so much xxx

@Megan Aw bless you 💗 you’ve done so well to cope with that! Wonder Woman 🦸🏼‍♀️ it’s a lot to deal with isn’t it when they have to go away. This is the thing I’ve always struggled with on this camp, all of the groups are very mum & baby friendly and there wasn’t really anyone I could be friends with as I didn’t have a child and I felt silly turning up to group events like that. Now that I’m pregnant it completely changes things as once it’s arrived I’ll be able to join those groups and socialise, which is a massive positive! Thank you so much for commenting, although it sucks hearing how so many of you have had to deal with being a solo parent for a while whilst your partners are away it’s really reassuring knowing I’m not the only one 💗💗

Hey! I had my first baby in April and my husband was deployed in March, he just managed to get back for the birth! He had 4 weeks at home and is now gone til September so i feel your pain! Inbox is open! We also moved house when I was around 33 weeks pregnant so I can relate to that too, but honestly it wasn’t anywhere near as bad as I thought and was lovely knowing we were settled ready for the little man’s arrival. Not many people understand how tough it is but stay strong and always here x

@Emma Hey!💗 thanks so much for commenting. That sounds rough ❤️‍🩹✨ you’re so amazing for coping with all of that so soon after giving birth, I’d be an emotional wreck 😂 Yeah that’s the only positive I’m seeing to potentially moving house before my baby arrives, i like the idea of being settled rather than worrying that we’re going to be forced to move super close to my due date or straight after the baby is born. I just wish we could stay in one place comfortably without the stress of moving all the time lol. It really is difficult isn’t it. Thank you so much 💗

Same position here!! This lifestyle isn’t for the faint hearted, we’re all in this boat together! If you ever need anyone to talk to please reach out, my DM’s are always open 🫶🏼

My husband is RAF and I'm 10 days off my due date of our first baby boy🥹 I won't lie and say that it's been easy, I've had a rough time especially in third trimester as husband has been away and I've had to do everything on my own whilst being heavily pregnant and sore. But honestly seeing how excited he is to become a dad and all the wee things he wants to teach and show our son makes it so worthwhile. I'm not sure if army is the same but the RAF have been so family oriented and good with us over the last 9 months. There is things that can't be avoided and unfortunately currently we are doing long distance but as soon as I'm in labour he will be able to come home. I fully understand how you are feeling as I fully support my husband and he really enjoys his job which makes me so happy, however there is times where I think about how different life would be without the military and wish we were a "normal" family not having to deal with frequent goodbyes. You can give me a message if you'd like to talk more. Xx

Message me if you’d like some support! My husband is RAF and gets sent away a fair bit and I have very bad anxiety so I can understand how you feel! If we can support one another it may help xx