Postpartum and marriage
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If he isn't putting the baby in danger, let him do his own way. He needs to LEARN how to be a dad, we usually have it easier because of mother instincts, but it's harder for them. Don't lecture him about something, just try and give a brief explanation on how you do it, and suggest if he doesn't have his way of doing X yet, he can copy until he gets the hang of it. Be a partner and support him.
I agree your way is not the only way as mothers we tend to have control issues and want everything done our way but if he’s seriously not harming the baby you can’t expect him to parent the way you parent
Are you complimenting what he's doing well? Balance can help make ppl more receptive
Your way is not the only way to do things . I know you might want things a certain way but changing how your husband naturally is probably isn’t the best way to go about things. And he probably feels like you’re trying to tell him how to be a father . I would see it from his perspective and maybe give it more than 3 days before you try to say he’s doing things incorrectly. You say you try to redirect him that’s a practice we use with my toddler. He probably feels like you’re belittling him which is why he’s getting upset with you. Sounds like you’re mothering him and he’s frustrated. I understand your side but your husband deserves grace and the space to figure out how to be a dad just like you want in figuring out how to be a mother. You wouldn’t want anyone telling you how to speak to your child or make it seem like you’re doing everything wrong . Your husband is no different. And i personally wouldn’t want him to resent me for ruining his time with his baby so I’d give it a rest
My husbands whole demeanor changed on Tuesday after my baby was born and it kind of caught me off guard because I’m extra sensitive now and crying over little things but we made a promise last night (our first night home) that at the end of each day we would sit and talk about our day and how we felt and what we learned and make sure to communicate with each other daily. Today has gone really great actually! We are first time parents and have been together 7 years so it was a shock to see a new man but also I think I’m a new woman too and communication is so important right now! Good luck!