Not sure how to feel?
My husband has a history or messaging/ talking to females online behind my back.
There was one time that was especially troubling where we were very emotionally distant from each other & I started hanging out/ having feelings for someone else. My husband & I decided together to work through it, that was 2 years ago & we now have an infant daughter.
I found out later that he had been messaging quite a few of his Facebook friends (all women) about what I was doing/ how it was affecting him.
I kind of let it go bc I felt like I did messed up things @ the time & he needed an outlet.
Now that our daughter is here I am having lots of emotions & he is too. We are having a hard time sorting through trauma/ attachment style issues.
I recently reached out to one of the women who he was messaging- who he unfriended on fb a while ago bc I kept asking him about her.
I told my husband I talked to her & how embarrassed I was- he snuggled me while I cried.
Now he’s being cold/ distant & told me he’s upset that I messaged any of those ppl bc he feels like a child & “the grownups had to talk”
I didn’t even know what to say- & then he told me he deleted his facebook.
Which first of all is sus.
Second of all it hurts bc of all the memories/ things we’ve posted throughout the years are now gone if he permanently deleted/ I can’t tag him in pics ( we’re going to my hometown in less than a week)
He said he deleted it bc I wouldn’t stop hounding him about it.
I feel like in a weird way it was to reassure me? But it feels spiteful.? Idk anyways he’s supposed to come with me to my hometown with our bb to explore/ have fun & I feel like he might be kind of a buzz kill to be perfectly honest.
Thank you if you’ve read this far.
Am I an asshole? I mean I know I am- but wtf is going on I need help sorting this.
Btw, you can not delete Facebook. You can de-activate but you can not delete. He is doing thing behind your back and because you have found his source, he has deleted it. But nothing to say he doesn’t have them saved in his phone. He probably has their numbers. Don’t forget, there are plenty of dating sites and apps out there now. I would just leave for the sake of your sanity