How to handle rejection

How to handle sexual rejection from your partner? This is like the fifth time I am being rejected. My sex life is bad but I don’t really take it to heart like that and him rejecting me makes me feel so shamed and awful. Every other thing is great. We joke, play fight and others but when it comes to sex???. Last time I touched him, he took off his trousers, had an erextion and he put back his trousers and turned his back at me. I couldn’t sleep but cry. It’s been happening for a while now. I can’t help but so sad everyday that I don’t want to hold a conversation, I just want to be alone. I have Infact lost my sexual desire for him and when he touches me for a hug I feel so irritated. At night when we are sleeping I always put a teddy in a between so his body doesn’t touch mine but he doesn’t know that’s what it’s for. I love him so much and I can’t help it

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I realise that isn't helpful in any way, but it just sounded so similar. To me, once I realised I wasn't happy and that things weren't going to change, I had to leave. You can't fix someone else, they have to want to change or want to fix themselves.. if he isn't listening then idk what you can do..

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My ex and me had this problem. We were together for 10 years. One time I came out naked and wet from the shower and tried my best to seduce him, he had a erection but turned me down. I got sad and went to bed. Decided I needed to talk to him about this, again, got up and he was masturbating to porn. I don't hate porn or think it's cheating, but if u turn me down then go to porn, it's definitely not a healthy thing anymore. Anyway, it never got better, even me sleeping in the spare room didn't scare him straight, everything fell on deaf ears and we broke up 👍 it was really difficult because I cared about him and didn't want to lose his friendship, but I didn't love him anymore in the same way.. and I wasn't happy. I'm happy now ❤️

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@Justina I can’t even tell. The other day I touched his phone he started yelling with oh why u touching my phone, that’s about privacy. I was confused like he used let me touch his phone like the way you like touching my phone so why the sudden change. And I can’t even tell if he’s cheating or not cos he’s mostly at home

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@Afi his reason is it’s not everytime sex sex sex

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What reasons/explanations has he given?

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Maybe he is cheating?

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@Nicole I have been trying I just don’t have the confidence to try anymore. The more he keeps rejecting me the less I want to be touched by him

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@Afi I have asked and asked b He keep saying ohh he will improve but yet nothing That’s why I am starting to get irritated with his presence Like I am just expressing my feelings for no reason

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@Justina we re not even fighting or argue Just resentment towards him I had this convo with him more than 4 times but he turned deaf ears to it

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Maybe less fights and more understanding of each other can help. Lack of communication doesn’t do anyone any good.

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It can be so hard, I've had this issue previously, found out my partner was wanking over porn rather than sex with me, I found I was resenting him and it's only now we've spoke it through and started spending more time together had it improved, you can get your spark back! Build Intimacy, try and enjoy his touch again and see if being close and touchy feely can create some chemistry. Its never too late unless your not willing to try xxx

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Talk to him about it. Tell him how you’re feeling and ask if there’s something impacting his libido (I assume it hasn’t always been like this).